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    #61

    Aug 15, 2007, 10:26 AM
    Indeed... You win. She is trying to juggle and as long as you don't give in - she's going to drop those batons... enjoy being done.
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    #62

    Aug 15, 2007, 10:38 AM
    I win? Trying to juggle? Juggle What? Being done?? I feel like I'm being a complete jerk and an... on top of missing her again... hahaha how is that winning or being done? I'm not going to give in. I just hope I'm not making her hate me, and in fact doing the opposite.
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    #63

    Aug 15, 2007, 10:40 AM
    Johnny, Do not contact her to tell her to leave you alone. It's been over 6 months since she broke up with me. Months 2 to 5 in she started driving past house waving keeping me confused. I contacted her a couple of weeks into the 5th month. Asking every time she drives by she looks so sad. Supposely she has a new boyfriend now, but I can tell you I regret contacting her. I have been unavaliable to her and I have not seen her in about 3 weeks.
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    #64

    Aug 15, 2007, 10:53 AM
    This all goes against everything I feel in my body and mind.
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    #65

    Aug 15, 2007, 10:56 AM
    JOHNNYYY -

    Hate you?! Why would you possibly care?
    Attention is what she wants for her ego - not for your relationship.

    The only thing she could possibly stew about is... silence.
    Don't be a sucka'.
    Let her imagination work.

    WALK... RUN... SPRINT... and don't look back.
    Better to learn now than later that once you've been wronged - your job is over.
    She's fired. DO NOTHING>>>>>NOTHING>>>>NADA.

    Peace

    When you are 70 - you can send her a picture of your grandkids (good news: they won't look anything like her!)
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    #66

    Aug 15, 2007, 11:12 AM
    Ash, So her contacting me has nothing to do with her wanting me still?
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    #67

    Aug 15, 2007, 11:23 AM
    No it has to do with her knowing that you still want HER. She doesn't want you anymore she just wants to know if she wanted you she could have you. Some women do this after a breakup. It gives their ego boost to know their ex is pining for them
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    #68

    Aug 15, 2007, 12:03 PM
    Damn it... I want her to want me back! HaHa, I don't even know if I'd take her back... But I would feel better about all of this if I knew she still cared a little.
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    #69

    Aug 15, 2007, 12:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyP409
    Damn it...I want her to want me back! HaHa, I don't even know if I'd take her back...But I would feel better about all of this if I knew she still cared a little.
    Ya Johnny, I don't want my ex back but would like to know if she still cared too.
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    #70

    Aug 15, 2007, 12:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyP409
    Ash, So her contacting me has nothing to do with her wanting me still?
    It has nothing to do with anything - she is a kid who wants to think all guys love her and there is no accountability... she likes you and him... and any guy that will chase her.

    She is "doing" another guy?

    Dude - You are in HoTown: Population: YOU.

    Move to another town.
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    #71

    Aug 15, 2007, 12:50 PM
    Yo, OK I understand she is a ho. Anyway, this is kind of funny and an ego boost for me. I usually don't go on AIM since our no contact started, but I signed on today to talk to friends. I'm going over to a girls house soon named Stephanie. I put in my away "going over to Stephanie's then out to dinner. Jeff call me about tonight" After a few minutes she blocked me... doesn't this show that it bothered her?? I hope so! Hahaha I know, that's immature, but it makes me feel like I'm getting to her like she gets to me when she tries to contact me. I'm playing the game back!! I've never been one to play the game, but its kind of fun!
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    #72

    Aug 15, 2007, 01:02 PM
    I know it's wrong but I am also playing the game back a little.
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    #73

    Aug 15, 2007, 01:05 PM
    Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

    It works... games are not generally functional or advisable --
    But ho's got to be played by pros.
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    #74

    Aug 16, 2007, 10:19 AM
    I would move on big time. I think she meant every word she said to you and her words were true, but she now can't bear to be alone. She clearly has no respect for you or your feelings. How is your self-respect holding up? You will meet somebody who thinks you are the best thing since sliced bread. You go back to her and your back on a rollercoaster. Intense, exciting, but not good.
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    #75

    Aug 16, 2007, 10:25 AM
    You need to stop caring about if what you are doing is effecting her. She is a child so yes she is mad that you are not giving into her tantrums. She is acting like an insolent child. Do you want to date someone who acts like a big fat baby when they don't get their way.

    She is clearly desperate for attention is doing anything she can short of standing in front of your house dressed in neon lights with a sandwich board that says "PAY ATTENTION TO ME". She obviously has some very low self esteem and needs men to desire her in order for her to feel good.

    How 'bout you just let her ruin someone else's life and you go on and find an awesome laid back chick?
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    #76

    Aug 16, 2007, 10:48 AM
    Thanks Glinda you are so right, and I want to meet an awesome laid back babe. I want to get rid of my feelings for her before then though (don't get me wrong I have been going out and meeting new people, nobody that I'm super interested in though for being more than friends). These feelings I have for the ex now though are more like hatred, and I hate having them. Is this normal do you guys think? I want to be normal feeling towards her eventually, like if I bump into her I want to be able to say "hey whats up" and not want to dropkick her in the face (I would never do this, but feel like it sometimes).

    Thanks for the advice though!
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    #77

    Aug 16, 2007, 10:51 AM
    Anthony, myself respect is actually better than ever. I started a pretty good fitness routine and can see results in myself already, and I have grown enough guts to actually go up to women now and just talk casually, haha, never before was I able to do this! So that is good.
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    #78

    Aug 16, 2007, 11:11 AM
    I think you naturally move on to hate since it seems so different from love. You'll know you are over her when you move to indifference. People think hate is the opposite of love but with hate there is still some flame. You'll be indifferent in no time :)
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    #79

    Aug 19, 2007, 07:17 PM
    So this is weird. I kind of had a relapse this weekend, and thought about her a lot, but still did not contact her. I went on a date and made sure she would know about it. But here it is, I'm getting ready for bed and SHE CALLS! I ignored it of course, thennn I turn on the radio to set my alarm for the morning and OUR song is playing... hahaha I know I'm being a girl its just a coincidence, but could things get any harder?
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    #80

    Aug 19, 2007, 07:20 PM
    It happens all the time. You are going along doing awesome then BAM you get kicked back to a bad spot. Just don't wallow in this space recognize it and go okay, okay I get it I'm not at 100% yet and just keep moving forward.

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