[vitabella18]

My exboyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. He said he needed to find himself and he needed his space and he wanted to work things out. However after a specific doctors appointment that I had he dropped me like a brick and it's been 3 months since our last conversation with one another. At this point I figured after all the stories I hear about what he's doing in his life after our break up "finding himself" involves partying and getting laid. Then again, my Ex is a liar to people he makes up stories to try to make himself look good. So the people he said he slept with you couldn't even believe because yuou don't know if he's lying or not. We work togther so obviously we hear stories about one another everday. Stories I hear about him never phase me I don't even feel a sense of jealousy. Him on the other hand told a friend of mine that he's bothered that I've been talking to another guy from work. My ex and I had a big feud right after a break up and we kept our distance from each other at work. I avoided his department as much as possible. He slept with a girl from work about a week ago and got ticked off that she slept with his best friend (he wors with us too). And now a few days ago my Ex comfronted me at work and said he wanted to be civil again. I was quite content of not speakign to him and not having an communications with him since after all, that's what he wanted in the first place. So what's the sudden change. There are so many things running through my head. He's been around when it comes to girls and I don't know if he's getting lonely because he can't find a decent girl. And his way of finding a girl is sleepign with her first. I've been told that he does miss me and he still cares about me and that he is jealous that I'm talking to this other guy. When me and my ex talk at work now he likes to bring up our past and I'm not sure why. I was looking at a menu at work to see what I wanted to eat since we were ordering out and he came up behind me and I can feel him leaning onto me. I don't know if he wants sexual intentions with me because he loves sex and likes to pick up girls. Or if he truly misses me and wants to work things out. Or is he just lonely. Or maybe jealousy because of the new guy I'm talking to. So many people from work told me to never take him back. Everyone at work sees him as a "scumbag" that's the reputation that my job gave him because of his actions. I don't know what to do. I was quite content of not speaking to one another there were no issues at work or with people that we work with. I don't understand why he wants to be civil. I want to ask him but I don't want him to think I want to be back together ebcause then he's going to think "great i reeled her back in" I don't even know if I could ever be with him again. I'm scared that if he wants to work things out it's just going to be a repeating cycle of breaking up getting back together. I asked him why he was being so nice to me and he said he wanted to be civil and I said after 3 months of not speakign you want to be civil now and he says I was angry at the time and I said angry at what and he said I was angry at myself. What does that mean?! I don't know if he's playing games with me. I want to comfront and actually talk to him about this and get to the bottom of it but I don't know if I should or not. I need help I can't read this guy's mind.
PLEASE HELP!! Why is my ex all of a sudden coming back?!

[Bluerose]

It's not about him coming back. It's about whether you want him back. If you do then you must put the past behind you or it will ruin your chances of getting him back.

People make mistakes, people grow up and people change. Everyone deserves a second chance. If you want to take that chance then take it. But if he isn't all he claims to be then be ready to move on with your life.

[talaniman]

Leave this scumbag alone to do what he wans and you get a man with less drama... who works somewhere else.Work place romances are messy, and everyone and his mama knows your business.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

The question you need to ask yourself is has he changed. If he hasn't then getting back together can only be a nooky stop and then he will dump you for a new nooky stop. I think due to him being so immature you should be nice to him at work but don't let him do more then talk to you. Don't take advantage of him by sleeping with him then dumping him because that would make you as bad as he is and your not that way and you know it.

Dennis777

[Linda Thomas]

Your ex is coming back for two reason one is because he see you with another and he feel that you belong to him, it not love but if you take him back he will feel that he can do any thing and you will take him back again one thing about a man if you really want him play his games I mean what ever he think he can do you can do better,if you want to test the water again do it to him first when the sex is over tell him well it is time to go I not try to keep you I just want to see if you still control my body but I see that it not the same, I guess I have not for give you yet and I think I need time to forgive you. Take care tell next time

[s_cianci]

If he's the liar and as jealous as you say hie is and if he is the scumbag that everyone at work seems to think that he is, then why the heck would you even entertain thoughts of wanting to get back with him? He doesn't sound like a winner, that's for sure. You can be perfectly "civil" while not speaking. In fact, by not speaking with him at all, you are, by default, being civil. You're not being rude or mean ; it's impossible to be any of that if you don't speak with someone. So, by definition, that makes you civil. I'd just go right on not speaking with him, unless you must for business purposes, in which case keep it strictly business, and move on with your life. Don't listen to any gossip or hearsay and don't let others spread it. If he's going to be jealous or have regrets, so be it, that's his problem, not yours.