[crystalbivens]

Ok so I have a question, since we all can talk like adults here and not think bad of someone,
Well almost a year ago my husband had plastic surgery down there to increase the size and width (not that he wasent good, just a male thing I guess) anyway it took a few weeks for me to get use to the size since I have only been with him for 8 years and was fit for what he had, at first it stung going in and felt like I was ripping but I got use to it and things have been very good for a while now but I have noticed since I became pregnant it has started hurting ago and feels like I'm ripping down there, in fact it's pretty painful so could it be that since becoming pregnant it's tightened back up some or what?
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[J_9]

It is most likely that you are not lubricating enough. That in and of itself can cause this sensation, and the hormones during pregnancy can lessen female lubrication.

Have you tried Ky? He just really needs to go slow.

[crystalbivens]

We have tried the KY but it burns when he goes in because it feels like a cut down there and when the KY gets near it OUCH then I really don't want to continue.

[J_9]

Then you need to take some time off from sex. It very well could be that you have an abrasion or two down there, a little cut if you will, but you aren't ripping. Take a week or so off to heal and then start again slowly.

[automansgirl]

My hubby is larger than I can really handle, too, and we have had difficulties having sex throughout our entire relationship. I agree with J9, take a break for about a week. When you start things back up, take your time, have lots of foreplay and use lots of lubrication. I have found that since being pregnant things are tighter down there due to the swelling and extra blood flow. We have our moments where it is painful, but we slow things down and if it just isn't comfortable we use other methods than penetration. Maybe try that for a while and see if that will help.

[crystalbivens]

Thanks guys I appericate the help, I'll take a break after all there's others ways to have fun...

[bekah876]

I understand where you are coming from. My husband is too big for me and it has always been a struggle. We have to be careful and ease into things. But since becoming pregnant sex has become painful. It isn't because of lack of lubrication, I have always used astroglide. I honestly think when you become pregnant you tighten up and things become more sensitive. If you do find a solution please let me know. I am just glad to know I am not the only one with this problem. My husband thought my sex drive would increase when I became pregnant, but it has decreased to his disappointment mainly because I am afraid of hurting.

[babieface85]

I heard from many people when you become pregnant you become smaller. I am not sure if it is fact or fiction. However, you are not alone in feeling uncomfortable. I would also assume the increased blood flow would make you much more sensitive. I have had the same problems and have not wanted to have sex much during this pregnancy.

[J_9]

Well, you don't exactly become smaller, however the area becomes engorged with blood and actually swells during pregnancy, hence the feeling of becoming smaller.

[buggage]

Exactly, the swelling can cause sex to be more pleasurable for some women, and more painful for other women. This is because the swelling/increased blood flow, causes everything to become more sensitive.for some women, this is exciting because the increased sensitivity helps them to experience multiple orgasms, and increased overall pleasure. For some women, this extra sensitivity means extra uncomfortable and sometimes darn right painful. I think most pregnant women will experience this discomfort at least once, just depending on each pregnancy and even month to month. I know I sure did. Some days it was great, some days hubby wasn't allowed any where near ;0) This might actually be something you want to mention to your doctor, they might have some suggestions that will help, I'm sure this is a subject they hear about this all the time. Good luck

[automansgirl]

Don't be afraid to try! In my case sex is sometimes painful, but other times it is amazing. It is definitely not anything like it was before becoming pregnant! Some days it hurts and others it doesn't. I also have a problem with him going too deep as well as being too big around. Sometimes it isn't an issue, but other times it is. Just try to experiment and figure out if there is a position that is comfortable for you. I have found that spooning is very good because it doen't allow deep penetration. All you can do is relax and give it a shot. If you are scared of it hurting you will be more tense, causing more unnecessary pain. If it hurts just try again at another time. I know for me it can be unbearable at one point during the day and completely fine at another. Good luck, and I hope you ladies find a way to be intimate with your man without all the pain. Open and honest communication is key!