[gayboy]

Ok I already know the answer to this one because I am gay. I just want to see what others think. There is no way that being gay is a choice. I would have never chosen this for myself. I would have wanted to fit in and be like everyone else. That is what all kids want. I am 18 now and have known I was gay since a very early age (like 10). There is no way this is a choice because at this age I knew nothing about sex... I just knew that I was attracted to boys.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

No being gay is not a choice your born gay. You not feel ashamed nor different.
Your blood the same color as a straight persons.
You cry just like straight people cry.
Your just as special as any straight person so feel blessed that YOU were chosen to be gay.

[michealb]

I don't know if people are born gay, or maybe eternal pressure later in life cause people to be gay. I know that it isn't something a person chooses for themselves and I know this because I never had to choose I always was attracted to women. So if it was not something I had to choose most others probably didn't either.

[Fr_Chuck]

Acting upon any feelings gay or straight is always a choice

[rankrank55]

Being gay is much more complicated that a simple choice. The question most people have is, nurture or nature. In my opinion, it's nature; people are born gay which, to me, is obviously a normal thing in nature that just... happens. The nurture theory just does not add up to me. There are so many children born into straight couples that become gay, vice versa. If you gay, BE PROUD! I hate it when people who are opposed to gays argue that they "chose" their sinner lifestyle and all of the BS... it's nonsense!

[rankrank55]

Acting upon any feelings gay or straight is always a choice

I respect you answer Chuck but I have to disagree. Being gay is more than just acting upon "feelings," it's who the person is. As straight individuals, we don't act upon our feelings of being straight, we just are.

[michealb]

Fr_chuck
So if the bible said it was wrong to be straight. Could you be happy giving up your hetrosexual lifestyle for god and settle down with a man?

[xxmissconfusedxx]

Acting upon any feelings gay or straight is always a choice

No sorry if your attracted to men your attracted to men and there is NOTHING you can do about it

[Fr_Chuck]

You can remain celebrate, both straight and gay can and may.

[GlindaofOz]

I don't believe that it's a choice. I believe that you are born the way you are. I think that being gay is like being born with brown eyes you can't help the way God chose to put you together.

[xxmissconfusedxx]

I don't believe that its a choice. I believe that you are born the way you are. I think that being gay is like being born with brown eyes you can't help the way God chose to put you together.

I couldn't agree more.

[gayboy]

Thank all of you for your comments. I would have to say that I'm glad that most of you believe that it isn't a choice. I agree with everyone except Fr_Chuck

[kyle22]

I don't think gay is a choice because no one would want to go through so much teasing and consistently getting made fun of who they like how they talk and how they live life. Its not a choice that's for sure! And also gay is not something to be ashamed of I'm a Christian and I go to church I believe in god I just don't believe that god doesn't like gays or won't accept them so its not a choice and don't be ashamed your just as different as the rest of us no one is the same. You should not be judged for who you like but for who you are.

[gayboy]

Thanks kyle22... I think you put it the best

[Paigiebaby]

I don't think being gay is a choice you like who you like

[kyle22]

“Stop judging by mere appearances and make a right judgement”. (John 7:24)
"Judge not and ye shall not be judged". (Mathew 7:1)

So I don't understand why christians are so quick to judge every one well great topic to put up and I think most people would agree with us that it is not a choice

[gayboy]

Kyle, I wish that everybody was like you. And I think that my church is one of the few churches that actually support gay people and gay marriages.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes sadly some churches have left Christianity and are supporting actual sin. Sad that they perfer to leave the teachings of their faith to be popular or accepted by today's culture. And of course we are not judgeing anything, since God has declared certain things right or wrong.
1 Thes 5:21 Prove all things hold fast that wich is good, So by what standard do we prove all things, Only by the word of God. And actually if you continue to read the rest of Matthew about judging, you will see that it actually instructs us to judge in two ways. First we are to judge sin in our own lives, then with pure attitude we are to help our friends and brothers judge there error that might be in their own life.
And the church itself has been instructed to judge as in 1John 4:1

So as in anything, theft, drunkenness, adultry and of course homosexual activities are all sin, not my opinion, not my judgement, but Gods.
But as Jesus would say to them that repent, your sins are forgiven go and sin no more.

[sGt HarDKorE]

You may be right Fr_Chuck but you really disapoint me and I always thought you were understanding but reading your posts changed my mind. Instead of using your heart, you go by the book. If someone went to your home and told you he was gay, would you tell him that he is a sinner and make him feel worse? And FYI, you never hear about a gay person killing his mate, but you hear about the heterosexuals that are abusing each other and such.

[FrOsT_bItE]

It's your choice. No-one should have to choose if you should be gay or not. If you decide to be gay then you shuldn't let other people make decisions for you. I don't care if people are gay or not, there choice