[sGt HarDKorE]

If I loved a girl and she was my girlfriend, there would be no need for another girl.

[friend4u178]

If I truly loved the girl I was with I wouldn't even consider it for fear of losing what I loved.

[MissingHim2Much]

if i loved a girl and she was my girlfriend, there would be no need for another girl.

I would normally agree but here's what I've heard was going on. My son, my ex and this girl he's now seeing all work at the same place. Well tonight another co-worker called my son and said he needed to tell him some things. He said that approxamatly 5-6 weeks ago he overheard this girl talking about me to my boyfriend. He said that she asked him how he could stand not sleeping with me 5 nights a week ( I work nights so I wasn't home 5 nights a week) She was heard saying that our sex life must suck and if he was with her she would have sex with him every night. She also asked if he wanted children. My boyfriend said yes and she said then why don't you have any with your girlfriend. He said because we just have'nt ever gotten pregnant. So her response was how can you be with a woman that can't even give you children.. Then she was overheard asking him why he was always stressed out. He said because my girlfriend and I have a lot of money problems. And she said well if you were with me we wouldn't have money problems because she would even get a second job just to keep him happy.. And she was said to always be talking about how great she was in bed and that she would make him forget all his problems. So I wonder can the power of flirting and putting me in a negative light made him leave me when before this we were very happy?

[friend4u178]

Not if he truly loves you "missing" sorry!

[sGt HarDKorE]

It may, I mean if someone offered you everything you thought you were missing, would you take it? He is most likely in love with the idea of being more wealthy and such. Let him know how you feel about this and that you are trying as hard as you can. If he leaves you then you don't need him. Then when he realizes the other girl is probably a fake he will realize how good he was with you.

[MissingHim2Much]

Thanks sgt hardcore,

She is a fake, my sister knows her and told me that this girl is BAD NEWS.. And I can't wait for the day he realizes just how much he gave up to be with a slimey gutter rat

[huggis1]

Nice one "Missing"! Now you're talking! Pick yourself up and show him that you're doing fine without him. Look your best, act confident and smile. Then watch as he wonders what he's missing and why you're suddenly doing so well. He won't be able to help himself. He'll be as jealous as hell. You'll have the power and you can set the agenda!
Good luck and best wishes.

[iAMfromHuntersBar]

**edit**

Don't fret, he's not worth worrying about, blatantly!

But that doesn't matter, what I want to know is why you haven't dropped-kicked her in the back of the head yet? He he!

[sully123]

My heart still goes out to you with your pain. Its awful, I told you my boyfriend left me four weeks ago, talked to him two weeks ago, which I went to talk to him at his house, and he didn't want the relationship anymore after a little over two yrs. The day we broke up the week before, we made plans to spend the day together in the morning. By evening, he said you could have came over and in the same sentence HE WAS DONE... He has never came back and I am crushed. People say no contact, which I am doing. Which I am the one that always cave, so this is different for me, but nothing is sparking.. To see your boyfriend in Wal-Mart must of broke your heart. Did he have this girl on the side, and you not know it? My heart goes out to you. You think you really know someone, but guess what we really don't. I think they have another side to them. Thank God your not married to him, if he is doing this to you now.. HE knows he is hurting you too.. Stay strong, it's hard... I just keep on praying, its tough... and heartbreaking.

[MissingHim2Much]

My heart still goes out to you with your pain. Its awful, I told you my boyfriend left me four weeks ago, talked to him two weeks ago, which I went to talk to him at his house, and he didn't want the relationship anymore after a little over two yrs. The day we broke up the week before, we made plans to spend the day together in the morning. By evening, he said you could of came over and in the same sentence HE WAS DONE...He has never came back and I am crushed. People say no contact, which I am doing. which I am the one that always cave, so this is different for me, but nothing is sparking.. To see your boyfriend in Wal-Mart must of broke your heart. Did he have this girl on the side, and you not know it? My heart goes out to you. You think you really know someone, but guess what we really don't. I think they have another side to them. Thank God your not married to him, if he is doing this to you now..HE knows he is hurting you too.. Stay strong, it's hard....I just keep on praying, its tough... and heartbreaking.

Thanks sully my heart goes out to you also. As for him having her on the side, no not in a physical sense anyway. My son works with both of them so he would've been unable to do anything there and when he wasn't at work he was always with me. Like I've said we had a very close relationship and did everything together. My son and I did find out tonight from another co-worker that this girl was making a play for my boyfriend constantly for the past 6 weeks or so. So maybe she was offering something I didn't have

[MissingHim2Much]

**edit**

Don't fret, he's not worth worrying about, blatantly!

But that doesn't matter, what I want to know is why you haven't dropped-kicked her in the back of the head yet?! He he!

Oh man I want to so bad you have no idea. Buttttt I want to be the bigger person. In the end when and if he does realize what a stupid mistake he's made he'll know that I allowed him to find that out on his own.

[sully123]

Don't beat yourself up on this one. YOU DID NOTHING! He has the problem.. and he has to live with what he did to you, and I am sure, it does bother him. YOU just don't spend 7 yrs with someone and then forget about them.. You sound so mature, compared to him. He is running for what reason I don't know. But it hurts, you said he is 25, am I mistaken? How old is this girl? YOU don't deserve this, as I don't either. I wake up every morning empty.. then you wonder what their doing? We have too concentrate on us, but it hards, they are going on living their lives.. keep praying, God will answer...

[MissingHim2Much]

I believe she is 22 and with all the drama that goes along with being 22

[rol]

HI MISSINGHIM2MUCH,

I've just read your post.

This is the way men behave after breaking up.. they distract themselves to fill an emotional void. Its nothing about you its just the way a man get over a breakup.

Please start to focus on yourself as soon as possible.

A lot of us here have been left like you wondering what happened etc, when really there is no answer. He probably just was not ready.

[SAB123]

Missing, My ex fiancé broke up with me 5-6 times in 5 years. On this brake up it's been a little over 6 months since she broke my heart. And I do know what you are going through. Still 6 months later I sometimes have very bad days and very good days. The reason I am starting to have very good days is I let go of her (well 99% I did) When I let go of her I was almost 4.5 months into break. I spent 4.5 months crying, hurting and being miserable. It's when I let go I started getting better. That 1% that I haven't let go of is now starting too bring me down a lttle now. Sometimes I feel like I'm moving backwards. I am at a point were I have healed enough that I will never take her back again or speak to her for what she did and how she used me. When you let go and start to heal you may not even want him back for how he treated you when he broke up with you. Just give it time and work on yourself and trust me when I say this Time Does Heal.

[SAB123]

If you truly loved someone, like I loved my ex fiancé I would never let another woman come between my and her. And with the her saying him not having kids, If my ex couldn't get pregnet which she did have trouble I would never leave her because of that. That's true love.

[oscaratalegra]

We had a great 3.5 year relationship between us she was going to school full time while I was working.we were about to get engage. My parents liked her but her parents dislike me A LOT. They have tried to separate us for the past two years(believe me they tried about every possible way). When she was in school I would help her from studying, money, food, clothing, etc. while her dad worked out of town and her mom would be gambling 24/7. we were basically married except we weren t sleeping under the same roof.she was a type of girl that if my mom would say she loved me she would get jealous, she would tell me she loved me in a daily basis. The day before she left she was telling me how important and helpful I had been in her life and then she was gone. I miss her a lot but what I believed is that my ex wife and her mom has something to do with this. NOTE: while my divorce my ex wife would call the cops in daily basis(about 65 police reports) accusing me of numerous accusation going from beating her up to the worst imaginable thing(without proofs). While my divorce district attorney asked me to sign a guilty plea and I would get a 1 year probation, or fight and my lawyer wanted 5,000 dollars just to start my case. So by me signing that paper made me guilty of all the accusation meaning my ex wife probably used that and confused my ex girlfriends mind. Now my ex wife calls me in a daily basis(I won t answer)[email protected]:confused: but my advice to you is pray and read your bible

[MissingHim2Much]

Missing, My ex fiance broke up with me 5-6 times in 5 years. On this brake up it's been a little over 6 months since she broke my heart. And I do know what you are going thru. Still 6 months later I sometimes have very bad days and very good days. The reason I am starting to have very good days is I let go of her (well 99% I did) When I let go of her I was almost 4.5 months into break. I spent 4.5 months crying, hurting and being miserable. It's when I let go I started getting better. That 1% that I havent let go of is now starting too bring me down a lttle now. Sometimes I feel like I'm moving backwards. I am at a point were I have healed enough that I will never take her back again or speak to her for what she did and how she used me. When you let go and start to heal you may not even want him back for how he treated you when he broke up with you. Just give it time and work on yourself and trust me when I say this Time Does Heal.

It seems a lot of people on this site have broken up and got back together one or more times. And after they hurt you several times you get on with your lifes. This is the first time he's ever hurt me in 7 yrs so its easy for me to think that he's just making some crazy choicees right now and will be sorry soon. Does it usually take more than one breakup to convince you its over?

[SAB123]

No, 4.5 months into my breakup I would have taken her back again. Even thou I still think and miss her and her son I would never dream of taking her back. It because I gave myself a chance to heal this time. And I see what type of selfish user she is. When you hurt you don't see the bad in a person just the good things. Although I'm not completely healed, I'm healed just enough to say NO this time. Hopefully in about 5-6 months I should be completely healed.

[talaniman]

I don't think he lied, I think he was being true to his young nature, despite the level of maturity that you gave him. I think your love turned to dependence, and you where much more emotionally invested in this than he was, so as hard as it is, do what I and others have been telling you, let it go and move on with your life, and tell your son to stop giving you a play by play report on his business. Get your own life in order.