[Oceanspray]

We met two months ago, we get along great but I pressured him too much into being exclusive. Result, he backed off. He's still here though; I am giving him a lot of air and I realize I have been way too pushy.

Thing is? I think I'm pregnant. Test positive, will go at the clinic sometimes this week.

Abortion? I don't think I can go through it again. I have had an abortion when I was 20 y old and it took me years to get over it. I still woke up in the middle of the night and it's been more than 10 years. It was a huge mistake.

To keep the baby? How am I going to tell him? I don't want to raise a child alone, I'm scared to death and I don't want to give my baby up for adoption.

If he doesn't want this baby, I won't ask for support, I'll get out of his life. It's not about money or about "trapping" a guy.

I'd like him to give it a chance. I'd like to suggest that he could keep his freedom, we don't have to live together right away or anything, but I'd like to work things out, I don't want to be a single parent or to raise a child without a father around.

I'm pretty sure he'll suggest abortion, how do I pass the message that no he's not trapped with me but yes I'd like him to try to make things work for the three of us?
I'd like him to do the right thing. And yes, I'm happy about the baby.

He's 32 I'm 30.

[chuff]

First things first.

Get it confirmed by a medical professional before anything else it done.

Then just tell him the truth if you are pregnant. I'm kind of at a loss as far as why you would get involved with a guy that would tell you to get an abortion after you already felt the pain of one. I've never met one woman who didn't regret the abortion so I wouldn't encourage another one. But if he is the kind of guy that tells you to kill a baby why exactly do you think he'd be a great father?

To be fair, maybe he's not that way at all. But he deserves to be told the truth and then it's up to him to accept or deny the situation. You can't nor should you force that. Adding a child to the situation is not going to bring a guy closer so don't expect that from him. That being said, it doesn't mean he will automatically run either, he may step up to the plate and be there for the child.

[Oceanspray]

I'd rather get out of his life than force him on a path that he doesn't want to take. I have friends, I won't be totally alone.

I don't know how to pass the message. I'm freaked out, I imagine his reaction.

[Haplo]

Your imagination is not reality.

[Homegirl 50]

Well you've already said you were pushy and he knows it. He may very well feel you did this intentionally, but if you're having unprotected sex, it's a chance you take.
What you need to do is have it confirmed and then tell him. He will react as he will, and you will do what you will.