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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:24 PM
    She wants a break
    Hi. I'm so angry, hurt, and confused. My girlfriend of 1 and 1/2 years recently told me that she wanted to take a break and needed space. She said that it had nothing to do with me and that she wanted to figure things out and be alone. Everything was going great prior to her saying this. I was so confused. At first it was hard for me to accept but I finally realized that she needed space. So I decided to give it to her. I asked her if I had done something wrong or if there was another guy involved. She said that it was none of that. I asked her if she was going to be seeing other guys and dating while on this break. She also said no to that as well. Earlier today she text messaged me and asked me to come online to talk to her. I went online and told her that maybe it's best we not talk while on this break since she wanted space. Her response was "oh Jesus, okay bye!" and so I just signed off AIM. Later that day I found she had deleted me from her friends list on Facebook. Will somebody please help me out and tell me what's going on? I love this girl so much and I don't know why she would do this to me. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to move on without her. It's so hard. The pain is unbearable... she is such a HUGE part of my life. Your input will be greatly appreciated.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:32 PM
    I know exactly how you feel. The same has happened to me recently.. we are both in the same position.. How old are you mate?
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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:41 PM
    I'm 20 years old. I met my girlfriend in high school. How about you?
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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:45 PM
    The best thing you need to do now is keep busy. Go out with your friends and keep yourself occupied. Plan some things to do over the next few days and weeks. Work on yourself and see your friends and family more. Give her the space she wanted which means no contact!
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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:49 PM
    You said, "i went online and told her that maybe it's best we not talk while on this break since she wanted space. her response was "oh Jesus, okay bye!" and so i just signed off AIM."

    She had put you on the back burner for a while. She was in control of your relationship. Then, in effect, you rejected her, and you took control. She didn't like that. She wants to stay in control.

    It sounds like this is becoming a duel with the big question of who will end up in the most pain. She doesn't want it to be her.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 07:52 PM
    I've sent you a Private Message mate.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 10:09 PM
    Hey guys, I really thank you for your advice. It has been helpful.
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