[sydneycj]

My son's biological father has not had any contact with his child since he was a newborn. He unfortunately was incarcerated when I was still pregnant and remained in prison for many years. My son is now 9 yrs old and has someone in his life who he considers to be his dad. He is the only dad my son has ever known. My son knows about his real dad but never mentions getting to know him. I don't want to be a but I personally do not want him having any contact with my son. My biggest fear is that if I were to try and find him, that he would take my son and never bring him back. I also do not want him to take him to where he would be living. There is a lot of crime, thugs and drugs in the area and I don't want my son exposed to that way of living. He is a good kid and I want him to stay that way. Am I wrong? I just want what is in the best interest of my child. Please help me make the right decision.

Signed,
Sad and Confused

[CaptainRich]

Have you considered a restraining order? If, at this point, he tried to abduct your son he would probably be inviolation of any probation he may have. Do you have any contact with the courts/probatioin officer? Was he listed on the birth certificate? You may want to consider contacting a lawyer to find out your rights.

You may be fortunate that, if your son's biological contributor hasn't tried to contact either one of you two, he may never. My situation is similar, except my wife's ex has never attempted to contact any of us since "my son" was born. I, too, have been the only father he has ever known. I feel blessed and hold hope for you, too.

Good luck!

[rankrank55]

Sounds like you know what's best for your son. You should probably talk with your son about his "father" and see what his feelings are about him. You never know, something good could come out of the two of them reuniting. If this were to happen, I would have the father meet somewhere away from the home, maybe a park. You could chaperone the visit.