[qwe1]

I have had a relationship for the past two years she is 31 now and I'm 27, but the difference is not at all obvious. We have talked in the past about marriage and it seems that she wanted but I never got the chance to propose.

She is the type of girl that works a lot in her company. She is very pressured from her parents in her job and generally works many hours a day,and doesn't get enough time to see her friends, me, relax etc.

She is the type of person that drowns in a spoon of water and cannot focus on one thing and finish it.

1,5 we had a silly fight as we were having dinner with some friends and cried for about 1 hour in front of them. The next day she didn't want to speak with me and after 2 days she calls me and she said that she want to be alone and that this time of her life is not good and she is very pressure. With no other explanation. I did all the mistakes a man can do call her send her emails, sms etc. the only thing I took out of her is that she wasn't having a nice time for a couple of months now and that maybe we are not meant for each other and not alike. She told me that she is also thinking of marriage and I said that I'm here for that.

Because we have common friends she knows where I'm with who and when, the same situation applies for me too. Everybody who sees her sais that is very unhappy and not talking at all, and when my name comes up she doesn't want to talk about it. Im 100% sure that she is not seeing someone else 100%.

For 1,5 months she hasn't called, emailed, smsed or anything, really nothing. She was asked by a friend if she has called me and she answered that I haven't had the need to do so. But there are sometimes that she asks my friends if I'm OK and where I'm and so on.

The last few days I learned that she is in a better mode, normal talking, etc. and she was surprised when she saw some friends of mine at a place without me but nothing more.

Her girlfriends say that I shouldn't worry I should leave everything as it is. Not call ( I haven't for 16 days) and maybe things would come right.

I really don't know what she is thinking, she doesn't talk much when it comes to such things and I have to fight to get something out.

I really don't know anymore what to do, to call or not, to move on and leave everything in the past and forget about her? Or wait?

I would appreciate any opinion!

[talaniman]

No communication-No relationship. Hard to accept, but you should let her deal with her own issues, with no pressure from you. Don't dwell on what was, just move on and find your own happiness... without her.

[s_cianci]

It sounds like she has some emotional problems. It doesn't really bid well for her having a successful relationship with anyone. Right now you should leave her alone and let her work on her problems. She needs to resolve whatever issues are plaguing her before she can ever hope to have a meaningful relationship with you or anyone else. I'd forget about this one and move on to greener pastures.

[qwe1]

Yes you right but this relationship was based on future thoughts... that we both wanted. I showed her that she could count on me with her job and I helped her as much as I could. The problem is that I never said no and maybe that was showing her that I will always be there for her and nothing would matter.

[talaniman]

The only way the future is possible is the two people working together in the present. Hoping alone won't get you there.