[tombabula]

What would you do?

Imagine that you got accepted to on-campus housing, you tell it your mother and she gets upset. You get for that private loan cosigned by your father and of course loan is ultimately for you to pay off. But then she goes crazy saying that you'll get in debt and never get out, that you cannot just leave, that you go there just to party! And she won't patiently listen to your concerns. Instead she says, because you did that decision by yourself, she will no longer cook, help with any expenses or help you with anything.

I carefully plan school and expenses with financial aid. And I need to live on campus to get more involved and have better chance for better grades and scholarship.

What would you do? How would u tell to "cut the cord already"?

Ps. Finally I decided to move out!

[tickle]

She will get over it, eventually not argue and just be over joyed to see you when you come home. Just watch out for the extra calories when home for the weekend and doggy bags to take back.

You can't tell her to cut the cord, she has to figure that out herself and unfortunately you have to bite your tongue and give her lots of hugs and reassure her that she will see you LOTS.

I have already worked this out with my son who will be moving to the city soon. I don't like it but 'if you love them set them free' is the old saying and it holds true in so many ways throughout life with your mom. I am sure you love her as much as she loves you. She doesn't realize it is hard on you too. So, good luck at school and don't worry about this little glitch in life.

[Trouble321]

It sounds like she is not ready to face her child leaving or what is also known as "empty nest syndrome". I would try to understand her concerns and just reassure her that she raised you right and everything will be okay. I don't know the relationship you have with your mother but I would try and be sensitive to her feelings. It sounds like she is just worried about you. Tell her that even though you will be living away from home that you will still get together often so she can see for herself you are doing well.