[Camarogirl]

New problem now... I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months, in April he broke up with me for 2 weeks, because he said he was not ready for a relationship, he said he made a big mistake and we got back together. Now he has done it again because he said he was tired of having a constant annoyance ( I called him twice while he was with his friends this weekend for a supposed guy weekend but when I heard girls in the background that is when he got mad for me asking about it and broke up with me )

If he does want to resolve it again is it a good idea to trust him? Is this normal for guys to do when they are not ready for a commitment? I have never been in a situation like this but I am tired of the break up and make up games.

[GlindaofOz]

He has told you twice that he is not ready for commitment. So my question to you is, what do you want from this relationship?

If the answer is a commitment then this guy is letting you know and telling you loud and clear that he is not willing to give one to you. You need to honor yourself and you wants and find someone who does want to give you a commitment and treat the relationship with respect.


This is normal behavior for someone who does not want a commitment yet you keep going back so to him he doesn't have to make a commitment to you since you never go away. My cousin was in a similar situation and after 2 years she finally, really understood what he was saying by saying I don't want a commitment was that he was dating other people. My cousin started dating other people and kept the boy in the rotation and after another 8 months he asked her for a commitment. She firmly turned him down. So I guess the other question is how long are you willing to wait for him to want a commitment and what happens if when he wants one its not with you?

[nicespringgirl]

He is not ready yet. Period.
Be light hearted about love.