[Reecetard]

Hi again :). I'm finding life difficult as a 15 year old gay who's not out. I have lots of friends, both male and female, I enjoy talking with females and gossiping with them but I enjoy the company of males because I'm attracted to them :D. almost all of my male friends are tall handsome and muscular which makes some situations awkward. I have a feeling some people already know I'm gay and one friend who often sleeps round mine I have a feeling is gay. He puts on the "gay act" when we both sleep in the downstairs doublebed together, cocking his leg over me and so on. Some times he goes really far and I get excited :P. he always asks me to massage his back so I do so. I leave him loads of really big clues to my sexuality but he's a bit slow. Should I ask him? How and when? I know I'm young but I'm very mature for my age and very intelligent. Post back please :)

[Fr_Chuck]

I am not a beleiver in any child ( 15 is still a child) having sex, no matter gay or straight) so wait, and come into grasps with your own feelings.
Also you are who you are. You need to come into grasps with who you are and discuss this with your parents

[GlindaofOz]

I agree with the Father. This is going to be a hard road no matter how you dice it. You definitely want a support system in place before pursuing any relationships.

[sGt HarDKorE]

I bet he is gay, just bring it up in small amounts. And yeah everyone is telling you to not have sex, but that's not always easy, I'm your age and I am having a hard time waiting till I am married. I guess you can't get him pregnant so no worries of a baby, but think about maybe STD's and such. Ok so maybe he doesn't have any but what about the next guy or the guy after?

[Fr_Chuck]

And just being 15 is tough enough also, even boys who are straight have to deal with dating, sex issues and so much more. And if you are gay this is a lot of extra stress from friends, family and even strangers

[Canada_Sweety]

Casually bring it up, but ease him into it.

[sGt HarDKorE]

I'm not sure if I am gay, I really hope not, but I think I am... So I kind of no what your going through. Maybe you could give pointers to me :)

[Canada_Sweety]

What makes you think you are/might be gay sgt hardcore?

[sGt HarDKorE]

Im not really sure. I have kind of compared myself to kids my age. Im not sure if its because I have a crush on them or maybe I just want to be like them or something. Im not sure I'm just really confused. Is it possible to never love anyone? I have gone out with a couple of girls and, they are nice and cute, but nothing really happened. Do other boys truly like the girls they date? Most of the time I feel pressured into asking a girl out, so I never had the chance to go in on my own. Im not sure if I really answered your question, there's more to this but I'm totally lost.

[jrb252000]

You are so young a lot of teens go through experimenting. However if you are sure you are gay or bi then there should be some type of support group for you. I would take dating one step at a time. No need to rush until you are comfortable with your ownself.

[sGt HarDKorE]

Well I'm not sure and if my mom ever found out or anyone in my family, I would rather be dead. I live close to 3 major hospitals so maybe they have some groups but I would have to go their secretly.

[jrb252000]

I hope you find the support you need... I'm sure your family would be understanding it just might take some time. Have you tried PFLAG.org: Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.

[tombabula]

Hmm. In Chicago there is Howard Brown Youth center for people under age 24 and teenagers like you. They offer free consultation, free medical care, free STD/HIV testing and they have support groups. If you do not live there you can always try to find similar organization in your area by looking at yellow pages. Good luck!

[sGt HarDKorE]

You are so young alot of teens go through experimenting. However if you are sure you are gay or bi then there should be some type of support group for you. I would take dating one step at a time. No need to rush until you are comfortable with your ownself.

By 15, shouldn't I know which sex I like? I know 13 year olds who do

[tombabula]

well im not sure and if my mom ever found out or anyone in my family, i would rather be dead. I live close to 3 major hospitals so maybe they have some groups but i would have to go their secretly.

Try to use Kinsey Scale. Anyway it is not simple for everybody to tell whether straight, gay or bi. Sexual orientation is multidimensional and dynamic. I hope this helps A Sexual Orientation Worksheet.

[jrb252000]

Yes by 15 you should know but I have seen friends of my flip flop back and forth never claiming an orientation and being true to themselves.

[sGt HarDKorE]

I thought about it real hard and I tried to think back as far as I can to when I tought I was gy. I think I know why I may have turned gay (If I wasn't from the start). When I was 13-14 this one guy would always ask me to go on webcam with him and he would always do stuff to my character (On a game) such as have sex with it. He got banned about a month ago for Sexual Harassing numerous people. Another person also would ask me to cam and would send me links of him masturbating, if this is the reason I am, can I go back? I know you said your friend switched between orientation, but I do not want to be alone. I want to have a family, and have kids.

[jrb252000]

I think being bi or gay comes from within you. Research has been showing some proof you are born that way. If you are gay you can still live with a partner and adopt a child. If you chose to be bi or find a willing partner you can have a normal looking life for your family and then enjoy sexaul freedom when now one is around.
My friend he use to date girls and bring them over to the house etc and then after a few months he would get tired and start with guys again.
It is up to how you feel and what makes you happy.

[Reecetard]

Thanks for your help so far guys keep posting please :)

[joe24]

You should play along with him. If he puts his leg around u them do the same.