[Wirer_22]

My fiancé and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and about a month ago got engaged. Before we started dating we were best friends and I still consider her my best friend. She just recently lost her job and is moving back to my town and is under a lot of stress. She came back here and saw her old friends, guys and girls, and is now having doubts about getting married. She says I'm not her type, and I never really was her type, and she may just want to be single. It was hard for her to tell me this, but I really thought we moved past just looks, and I feel like she's being pretty shallow. I'm not an ugly guy, just an inch or so shorter than her and a bit heavy. I made a goal with her to lose the weight and try and look my best for her. I really love her and don't want to lose her. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. She's out of town visiting a friend in the hospital, and we talk, she stopped saying I love you though, and we're putting things on hold.

Does it sound like I'm fighting a losing battle.. I'm not sure if I should start to separate myself from the thought of us getting married and start planning a backup. Should I try to fall out of love with her. If I should, how do I fall out of love with her

[jrb252000]

I think right now you should let her have her space. Leave the door open and let her know you are there for her. If her stress goes away and her feelings haven't changed I would let her go. Only time can heal your heart.

[talaniman]

Stay with the gym, but leave her alone as she sounds a bit bitter, and not all that nice or caring, so get a life without her and move on.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

At one time or another in a relationship people get cold feet or start thinking about what it would be like to be with another person. Normally it passes quickly and the relationship is even stronger after.

You have another problem that's much bigger then cold feet... Your with a Lady that is so immature that she can dump you because of looks. That's not Love, She has never been in love with you because she doesn't know what Love is. Love has nothing to do with looks, it's what you have inside that counts and she doesn't have much of anything inside from what I can tell.

Stand Tall and tell her to take a hike... You're a great Guy and she would be lucky to have you. Your going to find Mrs. Right and she will Love you for who you are not how you look or how much money you have.

Good Luck
Dennis777