[confused11]

Yeah, i think he is just trying to prove something to you. Maybe he thinks that you feel sorry for him so he feels that he needs to prove to you that he can get woman.Me and this one girl talked alot, flirted alot, and joked around alot, but as soon as i found out she liked me (like i didnt already know) I came a totally different person. I kind of stopped talking and tried to drift a way. Fortunately our friend kept making us do things together. Maybe you just need to have one of his friends kind of push him to go to the movies or w/e.

You could be right... but too me it doesn't make sense to mention that he is going on all these dates if he was really interested in me... either way I think its best if I just let it go... he must know that I like him by now and if he's still that insecure about himself that he has to try to make me jealous, then I don't really know if he is worth pursuing... it just makes me mad because he spent all this time flirting and making me think that he was interested and then when I finally ask him to hang out, all of a sudden he is mr. popular... agh I'm so aggrevated. Thank you so much for you advice though.

[sGt HarDKorE]

Your welcome and maybe try one more time. Maybe just confront him. Be like "I really enjoy your presence, and i wish we could be together, but i guess you are to busy for me and I am going to move on."

Maybe he will realize that this is his last chance, Good luck!

[talaniman]

He was jealous of you and your friend, so he reacted by building himself up. I honestly am starting to believe he is to immature for you right now, and geez this is a lot of work and drama for a lousy date. You should be having fun, and getting to know each other, not tip toeing through limbo. If he actually dated as much as he says, don't you think he would be a little better at trying to date you. He lied.

[huno]

I agree with talaniman that this guy's making you go through too much drama for a date... I also agree that it's very likely he intentionally brought up the "3 dates" thing in front of you to see what your reaction would be. Honestly, the guy does sound like kind of a tool... but you really seem to like him so this would be my strategy:

1) What's good for the goose is good for the gander: start by making him jealous. Be flirty with other guys in front of him--and I mean pour it on. Twirl your hair, put your fingernail in your mouth, play slap@ss--the whole nine yards. Have you seen the RGX body spray commercials? That girl that thinks she's all hot but in reality she looks like every other girl in the world? Yeah, act like her. See how he reacts. Then, you have one of two options:

2a) You can actually go out with one of the guys you've been flirty with (bonus: you might end up meeting someone better than him!), or

2b) After a few days of this, the next time he walks up to you, ask once more if he wants to go to see a movie with you. If he declines you this time, send out a company email congratulating him for coming out of the closet and be done with him.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck!


--huno

P.S.: what's so great about this guy, anyway? How good-looking is he? He sounds kind of weird so I'm wondering what would make you look past all that and still want to date him...

[confused11]

He was jealous of you and your friend, so he reacted by building himself up. I honestly am starting to believe he is to immature for you right now, and geez this is a lot of work and drama for a lousy date. You should be having fun, and getting to know each other, not tip toeing thru limbo. If he actually dated as much as he says, don't you think he would be a little better at trying to date you. He lied.

Yeah. It all didn't make sense to me either. But if he is dating people that's cool. I think that's what I'm going to start doing myself, I'm defintly not going to sit around and wait for him. But I do like him a lot so I will continue talking to him, and getting to know him better and maybe down the road he'll change his mind, or grow up... because I really hate all these games...

[confused11]

P.S.: what's so great about this guy, anyway? How good-looking is he? He sounds kind of weird so I'm wondering what would make you look past all that and still want to date him...

I don't know. I mean to me he is really good looking, and smart and we have good conversations... but all my friends seem to think that he is goofy looking and I'm out of his league... but I really don't think so. I don't know, all I know is that I get all nervous around him, and get butterflies in my stomach and all that. And I never get like that with guys, not even my last boyfriend who I was with for a long time...
But yeah I think I'm going to take your advice and just start seeing some of the other guys that wanted to go out... but I don't think that I could ever go out of my way and try to make the other guy jealous, I'm just not into the whole game playing thing... I'm just going to continue to be myself around him, and if he changes his mind and wants to go out then cool, if not then there is nothing I can do about it.
Thanks for the advice.:cool:

[talaniman]

You are obviously smitten, and more mature. Back off, and look at him more objectively.

[confused11]

Well I think I just have to get over it... because I saw him today and he acted like a total jerk... at first he was really nice to me, asking how my week was and how life was and things like that and then when my guy friend got there he started talking about how great his date was and how hot she was and blah blah, right in front of me... and I think that's a pretty crappy thing to do when he knows I like him, it was like literally daggers through my heart, it was really hurtful... so whatever I need to get over the crush, just sucks because I still like him a lot... but either way he is either really mean or really immature and I don't really want to deal with either.