[4570bigg]

I really like this girl... she has and boyfriend I beenin trying to get with her this whole year at school... I took her out 2times back to back... I really want to go with her... because I know that I can do more then her boyfriend she a strong blk women but everything I say some sweet she always say that my friendship means so much to her I just don't know what to do... it just something about her I never met a girl like her... I just don't know what to do??

[poseidon]

Hello 4570bigg,

This girl has a boyfriend so my advice is to leave it at that.

Of course you and she can be good friends, but whilst she has a boyfriend you should not interfere and try to get her away from him. She obviously feels for her boyfriend and it is unfair that you should try to come between them.

How would you feel if she was your girlfriend and he tried to get her away from you?

She certainly appears to like you but as a friend nothing more. If you try to get her away from her boyfriend you run a big risk of losing her and her friendship forever.

Let things be as they are and if for any reason this girl decides to finish with her current boyfriend, be there for her and who knows your friendship could develop into something more substantial.

If not, chalk it down to experience. There are plenty of other girls, and at least one of them will be right for you and you for her.

Cy
(Poseidon)

[AandZ4ever]

Listen I am almost 15 in a few days and I got to say I have never even dated or had a boyfriend so if you have your LUCKIER THAN U THINK! But I know how you feel believe me if you read my question on here and respond you will certainly know. Lol but I like an older boy jake he's a junior I'm a sophy or going to be lol . Well he has a gorgeous girlfriend and I can't compete with her. But I am shy. So my advice is go for it no matter what. Do what your heart tells you trust me because otherwise you will regret it one day. Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean you should sit on the sidelines get in the game and I know who am I to talk right but trust me Tell her if you do you will feel so much better and maybe she will return the favor you never know! ; ) go for it!

[huno]

I believe in the philosophy that, unless they're married, every girl is fair game.

Be warned, though, that if she has a BF, you're already 3 goals down and you've a yellow card to your name. Also the ref hates you.

(BTW that's a soccer reference... if you're not into soccer then think that you're 3 touchdowns down and your star quarterback has a sprained ankle. Also the ref hates you.)

If she really cares for him, you're not going to make any progress and you risk having the crap kicked out of you.

BUT--a lot of girls stay with BFs they don't really like so they can be with someone until a better guy comes along. That happens so often, it's worth considering.

[JoeCanada76]

You do absolutely nothing. She has a boyfriend and she thinks of you as a friend.

She is out of limits. If sometime in the future she breaks up with her boyfriend then I would say give it a try then but for now. Friends it should remain.

Of course, it is up to you exactly what choices that your going to make. This is just my opinion.

Joe

[rockerchick_682]

If you can be just her friend, then go for it. I don't want to tell you but if she really wanted to go out with you, then she would have.

[talaniman]

I think you are in the friendzone, and its hard as hell to get out. Back off and leave her alone, or those strong feelings you have will drive you crazy when she can't go beyond friends.

[Shaunta]

Umm... If She Has A Boyfriend Leave It Alone... How Would You Feel If You Two Got Together And Someone Else Thought She Was Attractive And Tried To Take Her From You? How Would That Make You Feel?? If Its In Gods Will You Two Will Be Together If Not... All You Can Do Is Move On! Sorry... Good Luck!

[rrcheer2007]

My oppionion is that do not risk her f riendship!! If it is meant to be than it will be