[AntJon82]

Well yesterday my ex girl told me the baby she had is not mine her and her mother where fed up with lying to me for nearly a year when I went to methodist hospital in brooklyn to see her and the baby she shooed me out as I was leaving her ex was coming in my gust told me he was taken her home so I left and called her mom her mom said she wasnr aware of him going there. The baby was born Sunday on 7/1/07 2 months premature the told me that her ex lived there with her from nov 06- feb 07 from word of mouth right now I'm confused I just want to know if he's my son I met geneva in sept 06 but during around nov- jan I wasn't messing with her a lot I mean I live in nj and I went to bk ny to family court for petition of paternity test she has told me she will not show up. My family urges me to press on cuase you just want to make sure and can't go by word of mouth even if the time she was sleeping with him and me are nearly around the same time. Her family expected me to be there when he was born but from her mom and grandmother I wasn't wanted at the birth even though her dad expected me there and ask why I wasn't there. Now I have a whole house hating me I just want a dna test just to make sure they been telling me truth cause I have been lied to for long time IS THERE A PROBLEM WITH ME Going TO COURT AND IS THE A PROBLEM THAT BEEN LIED TO SINCE SHE WAS Pregnant AND About HER PAST RELATIONS.:(

As of last night she told me the her ex that came there to hospital when I was leaving did not take her home or is the father what should I believe

[startover22]

You need to go to court ASAP! If you want to be comfortable in your own skin, you need to know the truth. And she is obviously not being honest, somewhere right? Go get the test and take her to court. Next business day would be good... Forget everyone and only worry about you and the baby that could very well be yours. Good luck!

[don8]

Okay first of all she can't just not show up if you take her to court she would be charged with failure to appear and a warrant would be issued for her arrest so that is just trying to keep you from finding out the truth. I think that the other answer is right go now and file the papers and find out the truth because maybe she doesn't even know for sure. If you are not the father get as far away from this girl as possible and never revisit this relationship. From your other post it is pretty obivious that this relationship is not in your best interest it has killed oyur self esteem and made you (as I said in answer to the other question you posted) act like a stalker and this is not something you want. You seem like a nice person stuck in a bad situation so find out the truth and then free yourself from the situation if this is not your child, if it is your child then you have to be there for the child but you can do this with out having too much contact with the mother of the baby. (through the courts ) and only seeing her when you have to such as things both parents need to be there for and picking up the baby for visitation. Good Luck