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Okay. I'm not unhappy. I've been dating someone for two months and am very happy. (Actually, I've been told twice here to dump him, but I didn't. What can I say? Well I did once, but he talked me out of it. :) After that I asked him to stop using the dating website and he did. I think we have had some misunderstandings, but he is always ready to talk things over and I'm starting to trust him.) I have been divorced for 6 years. We are both older, 52 and 59, and glad to have found each other.

BUT my sweetheart has only been separated for a year, and lately he keeps saying that things are going so fast and that he is afraid he is on the rebound. Is two months too fast? Is a relationship after a year rebound? What would that mean? That it might be a flash in the pan, not genuine?

I'm not worried about his divorce plans or him going back to his wife, who left him for someone else. And we both have older kids to raise, so there's no great rush. He seems to be in love with me. Why is he worried about things going too fast and rebound? He is pretty articulate about most things, but he seems unable to explain and I feel like I must be missing something important. He doesn't seem to actually want to date anyone but me, but maybe he thinks he should? He made a big deal about wanting that option earlier but he isn't dating anyone else as far I know. I really would doubt it. Maybe he's just afraid of making a bad choice? It seems like it's easier to worry about that when you are looking at the last third of your life... He is the one who keeps asking me to see him and calling me every day, so I don't feel like I'm pushing except about the exclusivity. Any thoughts?

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PS. I forgot to mention that he is a basketball fanatic, if that relates to his anxiety about rebound...