[dynomite]

I have been kind of seeing this girl, but she currently has a boyfriend. We spend a lot of time together, we have spent countless hours talking. We sat in my truck with our lips about a millimeter away from each others... but we couldn't do it cause it felt wrong. She tells me that she is into me and shhe really just wants to be with me... but at other times she says she still loves her boyfriend and stuff might never happen between her and me... what do I do?

[SameOldSituation]

Man... that's tough. I can tell you, I've been on the opposite side of that scenario, and it hurts very very badly. I personally would get more pleasure out of not interfering with their relationship and knowing that I'm not going to hurt anyone with actions that I can control.

I mean, she's got a boyfriend. Let her deal with it. Wait till they're not together anymore. Chances are, she might do xyz with you, but then run back to him... at least for a short period. Then it's up and down, up and down for a while. You and he are toyed around. Just a sticky situation to stay out of. If, in the end, you do the right thing, you'll be proud of yourself and get some good satisfaction in that.

Secondly---what does that say about her actions whilst in a relationship? She allows herself to get uncomfortably close to other guys. Yeah, it is certainly human to feel lust or whatever, but, geez... I mean, if she knows sitting in a truck with a dude will be tempting, she shouldn't do that.

[dynomite]

You I talked to her about that and she said this is different... she really wants to be there with me... the guy doesn't treat her the way he should. And in a way I feel like I'm being used but at the same time I can't help myself... now she wants me to come and talk to her today about the whole situation and I don't know what I'm going to do.

And absolutely no offence to you... but if you were on the receiving end of that doesn't it make you wonder what you did wrong for that to happen?

[victoria_mitchell]

All I know is that if that was happening to me, I wouldn't want to be with that kind of a person. Let's say you ended up dating her and you're the boyfriend that's sitting at home while she's saying that to some other guy. Just some food for thought...

[Dennis777]

Hello.

According to the cheater its always different. Each time its different and you can bet there has been other times, your not the first or last.

If you really want to be with her then let her prove it. She has to break up with him and stay broke up for 3 months then you can start a relationship.

Good Luck
Dennis777

[dynomite]

You I see what your saying.. but I keep going back to the fact that this feels so right... everthing about her is perfect for me... and I've never known so much about a person... I know stuff about her that even her best friends for 7 years don't even know.

[SameOldSituation]

and absolutly no offence to you.....but if you were on the recieving end of that doesnt it make you wonder what you did wrong for that to happen?

Absolutely not you effing mullet.

Don't justify one's weakness to temptation, lies, and hurtful actions to another by slapping it on someone else. That's some weak moral fiber right there.

I write you a solid, positive response, which agrees with what others wrote... hell, I try to help you, and you disregard it all and then turn around and say that?

[dynomite]

Dude don't get upset!! I was merely asking