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startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 11:26 AM

I know what you are saying, I know many girls who have had abortions and opted to adopt their bay out to loving homes and the few that chose to keep their babies. That was in high school and I could only imagine what any of these choice have done to them. They are all hard choices and they are all worthy of something!

JoeCanada76 · Jul 2, 2007, 11:27 AM

Synnen, How are you doing?

I wish we all had the option to have animated avatars here it would be so much more interesting.

You know how I feel about the adoption and teenagers having babies. Hopefully everything works out for the best in each situation. The concern of course needs to be about the baby.

Joe

Synnen · Jul 2, 2007, 11:31 AM

Oh, I know it needs to be about the child. I just get frustrated at the people just blithely throwing the suggestion out that as if that's the best case scenario every single time.

It's like automatically throwing "Oh, you can always adopt" at an infertile couple. Or "He's in a better place" when someone dies. It's like... these pat answers that have absolutely NOTHING to do with the situation at hand, or the very real people involved, and it always just seems terribly insensitive to me.

JoeCanada76 · Jul 2, 2007, 11:35 AM

I am guilty of doing that synnen, but you already know that. Guess we all have our different thoughts and opinions. It is defiantly a very sensitive issue. I agree.

Well I am going to try to take a rest considering I have hardly got any sleep at all. 2 hours I think. So I am off for a nappy.

Synnen, stay strong. Always stand up for what you think is right.

Joe

Synnen · Jul 2, 2007, 11:41 AM

Joe... thanks for listening to me rant.

Have a good sleep! Hugs to Proud and Joshua.

JoeCanada76 · Jul 2, 2007, 11:54 AM

Anytime, I will try my best to get some sleep. Lol

I will defiantly give hugs to Proud and Joshua for you.

Bye for now.

J_9 · Jul 2, 2007, 11:54 AM

Synn, let me ask you... What is wrong with saying "he's in a better place?" Not to start a real discussion here, but that is exactly where my father is. Watching him suffer terribly those last few weeks was horrendous.

I used to think it was terrible to say that sort of thing, or... "it was a blessing" That was until I saw it happen with my own eyes to someone who I loved and looked up to. He was my hero. Now he is in a better place because, no matter where that place is, he is not suffering any longer.

Synnen · Jul 2, 2007, 12:02 PM

Actually... I think it is ENTIRELY appropriate in SOME cases. My grandmother died from Alzheimer's (or rather, complications relating to it), and it WAS a blessing, and a relief when she died, and she was definitely in a better place.

What I object to is people using those phrases as stock answers, regardless the circumstances. While it may be true that a person is in a better place after death... what parent wants to hear that of their young child?

Same thing with the other situations. While in some (and perhaps MANY) of the situations, those answers work well, in some cases it just rubs wrong.

I'm just crabby today, and it's a touchy subject for me. Don't mind me. I just needed to rant for a minute. I'm better now. No... really... you can put the straightjacket away... ahhhhhhhh

startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 12:05 PM

I get to miss my daughter for another 4 days. She is heading to the beach. I think I will put myself in her bag and go with!! I need more coffee, I have foster boys, my own kids summer company coming and my house won't stay CLEAN!! I am happy though!

Synnen · Jul 2, 2007, 12:08 PM

Hey... who cares how clean your house is, as long as you're happy?

JoeCanada76 · Jul 2, 2007, 12:08 PM

That is all that is important. A Healthy happy family. My parents just dropped my little sister off to university for a 5 week program in another province. My little sister is all grown up. Ahhh, Tissue please.

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Exactly what Synnen said.

startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 12:12 PM

Awww, I was the youngest out of four. I was always in trouble but my oldest brother always took real good care of me. Still does if I need it.
I guess so, but " I like clean floors and I cannot lie....!!!" (I like big butts and I cannot lie) Sounded the same so I sang it in my head!

Synnen · Jul 2, 2007, 12:28 PM

You other surfaces can't deny
When a floor shines up and glitters in your face you get FUN!

Um... yeah... I get a little carried away.

Emland · Jul 2, 2007, 01:06 PM

What do you think the people that ask "what pill is this" are really up to? Are they scouring Grandma's pill boxes looking to get loaded?

startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 01:21 PM

They might be, but I hope not. I have asked what one was because I thought it was a muscle relaxer but wasn't sure and it turned out to be just what I needed... LOL By back was killing me and it was exactly what I thought it was... Some people are just trying to be safe. I would never take anything if I didn't know what it was. Some people are loonies that really like to go through grammas pills and get high...

Myth · Jul 2, 2007, 02:52 PM

I wish I had a pain killer right now... something more than Tylenol. My lack of teeth are killing me at the moment...

startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 02:56 PM

How are you eating? OMGosh that has to hurt... Sorry!

Myth · Jul 2, 2007, 02:58 PM

I'm eating OK... I just wish I had a couple more pain killers, cause my whole jaw aches... Oh well Tylenol it is...

startover22 · Jul 2, 2007, 03:07 PM

25 of them!! J/K I hate teeth work!

Myth · Jul 2, 2007, 03:21 PM

Lol... only had two pulled this week... got to have three more here pretty soon... This is what happens when you fear the dentist and can't reach your back teeth with the toothbrush cause your mouth is so small... lol... I should have taken better care of them in the first place. Not to mention the havoc four kids do on them during pregnancy. The twins really broke them down... *sigh* oh well they're getting taken care of now.