[lkarimi]

I have been in a relationship with a man for 3yrs and we have a 1yr old daughter but this guy doesn't want to introduce me to his entire family he only introduced me to his sister and brother who happen to be younger than him and when I inquire the reason behind this he shrugs it away and tells me to give him time am to lose patience and at the same time afraid about my daughters future without a dad if I leave this man this is becoz I have lived without a father or mother and life was so hard for me especially in high school please help:(

[Rockabilly1955mama]

That's not a good sign. You have been with him for 3 years, and you have a daugther with him and you've never met his entire family?

He may be hidding something. He might have bad sides of his family that he is asshamed of and/or he doesn't want you to be introduced to that because he is afraid it will change your prospective among him.

He may also be hidding you. Which is never a good thing. You must sit him down and let him know how you feel about this. Communication is key my dear. Tell him it's been bothering you. He should understand. If not, he's not the one for you.

Above all, I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helped.

[JoeCanada76]

Are you in a relationship with him or his family?

In some circumstances I agree that it might be worrisome that he will not introduce you to the whole family but at the same time he has introduced you to some of his family.

There could be very legit reasons for not wanting the rest of the family involved. For all you know he might have series problems with his family and he does not want you or the daughter to get involved.

Is he a good man. Good father? Does he make you an important part of his life? I guess, there are so many different answers depending on the situations.

I think though that maybe in this situation your better off not knowing the whole family?? Remember what is most important and that your need for a family might cloud your judgement in this. We all grow up with personal and family struggles and it makes us who we are today, just remember the struggles that you might face with a family inlaws might just be overwhelming.

In my personal situation my wife and I are better off not being part of some of the family. It has caused to many problems.

Hope this helps some.

Joe

I do not think it is a good enough reason to leave someone because they do not want part of the family to be introduced.

Now it sounds like you did not have a good family situation but in no way do you need to look for replacement family in your boyfriends family.