[Rhi]

Well hey Im Rhiannon I'm 19 probably thinking oh still so young.. Now I met my boyfriend when I was 15 he was 18 we had been togethor four 3 years and we've been brokin up for about a month now we've had our fare share of troubles I want him back so bdly but he keeps teeling me he's 100% sure were not getting back togethor he sais he wants to but he can't he won't let himself get back with me we love each other so much how do I get him back people please help :confused:

[JCollins57]

He knows he's got you where he wants you. Back off a bit, maybe let him see you with another guy. Men when they see that they will go back with you just because they don't want anyone else to be with you

[Jiser]

Read over the board and read past questions and advice! If he says he doesn't want you 100% then:

Its time to accept the harsh truth and start the transition to single life. Its hard but whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? More wary in the future and aware what we are looking for in a relationship and a person.

Treat your relationship as a life experience, you might not be able to treasure the memories you had right now but one day you will. Do not regret but learn and move on, as someone much better is just around the next corner.

You must try follow these: (be strong)

1) Abide by no contact, ignorance is bliss so don't go near the 'grape vine'
2) Work on yourself entirely - hobbies, work, gym, volunteer?
3) Ever wanted to do something in your life? Nows the time
4) Spend more time with your friends and family and renew old social ties
5) Box every memory away and stay away from your fav songs for now - when you can look at it without feeling ill - Ur halfway there!
6) Time does heal :P It just takes a god dam while, but don't mope at home, go out, party, exercise - helps a hell of allot
7) Remember at the end of the day you're the only one who controls you and your destiny! Anyone else is just an entity which can act on you if you wish it to. Your happiness is up to you, so make yourself happy as every second wasted is one you won't get back!
8) Go camping, spend a day with nature, go on a boat trip, relax!

You don't need anyone to be happy.

The best revenge is to be happy yourself :]

[talaniman]

Your in a lot deeper than he is. Don't fool yourself, just accept he doesn't feel the same as you so its time to move on and find your own happiness. I know it hurts, but try to do other things an do what you enjoy.