[cash1500]

Well this is my first time on a forum, hopefully some people will respond.

Here is the story I've been with my GF for about 3.5 years and everything was good it was a normal healthy relationship, until she started this new job. Make a long story short we started having problems she said she wanted her space and that she wanted to be by herself, so we broke up didn't talk for a week straight she calls me after a week says she misses me wanted to work things out, I find out that she started to talk to this guy from work which was the real reason we broke up, she said it was a thing and that I was over and done with, I believed her and thought we were moving on. Well for the next two months it pretty much has been hell, she has been going around in circles(me, him , by herself) anyway its been going back and forth one day she wants to be with me the next she's not sure then we break, up she goes to the other guy realizes she misses comes crying back and I take her back.

So I finally gave her the ultimatum, quit her job and never talk to this guy again and maybe we can work thing out. She stopped talking to him but can't quit her job until she finds something. Everything was going good until we had a conversation and I found out that she had sex with him while we were broken up, I blew up got pissed. I don't know what to do I love her to death more than words can describe and she is also my best friend. I talked to some of my friends and they know the whole story and they said to move on and forget about her, I've tried to do this in the past but she always calls and I always give in. Not saying that she is going to call this time but if she does what should I do. Should I just move on have no contact with her?? And erase her from my life. Its only been a couple of days and it suck its like hell, Given the situation that she still works with him and all the stuff that has happened should I just move on?

I think that she is just torn between a guy she loves and this new fling she has, or had? What should I do?? Thanks for the people that post Im a 23 yr old male she is the same age.

[emopunk7]

OMG! This hurts so much! It's like the movie unfaithful... How can she do that to you? Bit*h!! I know how much you are hurting and I wish I could say this is going to be easy but, you have to really sit down and think about this. She tells you she needs space and to be by herself, but had sex with another guy... Okay, so we know she is a liar and a cheater... Is that what you want? Also, if she really loved you, it wouldn't have been hard to decide who she wants. You had all the right reasons to be upset with her especially if she is still working there... That must be really difficult for you because your mind will think so many things. I think she really doesn't care for your feelings at all. This really hurts and I'm sorry it happened to you. Move on and don't look back for one second. She betrayed you! You deserve so much better! Def. stay in no contact for at least a month.

[cash1500]

Thanks a lot for the reply, I know its tough, it also hard because when your in the situation your blinded and your judgement in impaired on what to do. I guess time is te only medicine.

Everyone else please reply and let me know what you guys think out there. Thanks

[SAB123]

Although my ex never cheated or broke up with me for another guy. She may do this down the line with some other dude. Don't take that chance. I would move on. I know it's hard. But don't waste time taking her back if she's going to keep breaking up with you all the time. My ex fiancé broke up with me 6 times within 4.5 years don't make the same mistake I did buy taking her back.

[cute43male]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Even ***if you worked things out, it's only a matter of time before she would do it again. Let the macdaddy who stole her from you get his heart broke next time; that will be your revenge on him...

[Sdjosh]

Lets check the facts..

she said she wanted her space and that she wanted to be by herself, so we broke up ............... after a week says she misses me wanted to work things out, i find out that she started to talk to this guy from work which was the real reason we broke up...............she had sex with him while we were broken up,

So these are the facts.

She doesn't know what she wants. She throws away a 3 1/2 year relationship... has sex with some guy from work... then wants to come back.

I got 2 words for you... F**k that!

How could you even begin to take her back after that. That trust between the 2 of you was broken. She has no respect for your relationship or you.