[Ayelech]

I have been married for 8 years and have one child. I didn't marry my husband because I fell in love. He somehow approached me and have done several good things to me and then because of family pressure I had to marry him but not in love at all. Time passes he is still very nice to me but I consider him just like an elder brother and not as a romantic partner. I am looking for a great love and Rommance and possibly re-marry one I can be obsessed with. Is it a good reason for divorce?

[freaked out]

Yes it is a good reason to leave but... really think about what you will be losing if he is a great guy to you then really think about that because there are few great guys out there. But if you think of him as a older brother then get out of there and find your true love because it feels great when you finally find that person... that's what I think if you truly have thought about it and really do not love him then do not waste your life abway with some one you do not love.

[jillianleab]

Only you can decide if this is a good reason to get divorced. If you are miserable in your marriage, there's not much reason to stay in it. It's possible your unhappiness will cause you and your hubby to fight and will produce stress in your house which will be passed to your child. If you are unwilling to try counseling to "fix" your problems, then divorce is the only option left.

[HOPE1963]

Well your are looking for romance / great love :p
I still believe these are only seen (or watch) in movies. I am telling this because of my 10 years experience. Before marriage we were flying over pinkie clouts and we were thinking this may go forever :rolleyes:
It is not.:(
After first year of marriage when you start to share the money and all family or relative related problems those pinkie clouts all turned back to greyish black :mad:
So if your man is still nice to you forget all romantic movie scenario and my advice keep your marriage ;)
Don’t forget white horse princes are only in fairly tales, not in real life
Cheers

[shygrneyzs]

Have you told him how you feel? That would be a step in the right direction. Perhaps he is unaware of how you feel, or how you do not feel. Before you talk about divorce, please consider going to a marriage counselor. Even if you go to an attorney and ask about getting a divorce, you are going to be asked if you went to counseling and what you did to make things work.

Do you live in a state that has no fauult divorce or a state that you have to have some grounds for divorce? Everyone wants great love and romance but how much are you doing to make this happen in your marriage? Like all things, it takes work. And you do need to communicate your feelings to your husband. If you do and he is not interested, then think about options.

[ddog22]

I do not think this is in the best interest of your child. Your child needs a mother and a father, he should not have to pay the price for your misfortune or bad decisions. This man has been wonderful to you and this is how you repay him? You owe it to your son to provide a good family with a mother and a father to love him. If you work together you may find that he may be a lover. If you are unwilling to work at that the opportunity may pass you by and how unfortunate that would be! Marriage doesn't always run off love, it is a matter of being committed to another person and your child that you decided to make with this man. You put yourself here please have enough character to give your child the life he deserves. For he did not make this decision, you did! Good luck. And let me know how things work out!