[whyisitme]

What has happened is that I was texting a lad for about 7 months, we had been taking it slowly because I had never been in a relationship and he didn't want to rush things, because apparently he had never felt the way with anyone before like he did with me and didn't want to mess it up, it was beginning to get a bit more serious about 2 months ago, we used to hang out with other work people. I'm 18 and he is 21 by the way. Then after one night of going the pub with work he text me that night and that was the start, it he asked me to meet him alone for the first time. But then a family member of his died so we couldn't meet. He didn't ask me again, and the texts that I would get several times a day were getting less and less. I did notice it was more physical in work though, like more hugging and touching me (e.g strokin my hair, pretending to punch me etc) he was always very flirty as I was. And he used to come out with things like "you havent meet my little sister...yet have you?" and then he would like be embarrassed as if the "yet" part shouldn't have been said. He would still tell me that I meant the world to him and one day he wished I was his and he would tell me he missed me (I presumed that was more because we had lost touch a bit because the texts were less and less).

Then... at the end of those 2 weeks in work where he was being over friendly, I discovered he was seeing a really good mate of mine from work. They had been together a week and were keeping it on the hush, as she was like a good mate of mine, and her ex was the lads best mate. They had been together 2 weeks, which suggests why he stopped texting me as much, doesn't doesn't explain the physical contact and chatting that went on in work, but I've later discovered they had been texting for ages before. So he had basically had the both of us on the go!

Obviously I was gutted, as I was madly in love with him. And still to date about 3 weeks after it all came out I'm still gutted. How can I get over him? I think the pain has eased a little, and I don't sit around waiting for his texts that I know will never come now (although he did send oen last week! ) but I still think about him way toooo much and what makes matters worse is they're so open, they're all over each other in work and their comments on myspace its like déjà vu reading what he sends her was exactly what he would say to me (its like rubbed in your face, as if on purpose, all stuff like I love you loads and you mean the world to me, and ill ring you in a bit baby) I'm wondering if its done with like spite to get at me and make me feel jealous... it works!

One thing I promise a mate of mine though is that I wouldn't let it show in work, therefore when I found out I acted like I wasn't bothered, and I still do, but what makes it worse is that he now sometimes will say hello and sometimes blank me, it's that not knowing that hurts, and plus the fact that why should he blank me when he is in the wrong and I'm totally innocent, everyone says I'm best off without him, but I still have feelings for him and it hurts so much, he has broken my heart!

Does anyone have any ideas how to resolve me depression and get over him? It hurts so so much!

[godprawn]

what has happened is that i was texting a lad for about 7 months, we had been taking it slowly because i had never been in a relationship and he didnt wanna rush things, because apparently he had never felt the way with anyone before like he did with me and didnt want to mess it up, it was beginning to get a bit more serious about 2 months ago, we used to hang out with other work people. im 18 and he is 21 by the way. then after one night of going the pub with work he text me that night and that was the start, it he asked me to meet him alone for the first time. but then a family member of his died so we couldnt meet. he didnt ask me again, and the texts that i would get several times a day were getting less and less. i did notice it was more physical in work though, like more hugging and touchin me (e.g strokin my hair, pretending to punch me etc) he was always very flirty as i was. and he used to come out with things like "you havent meet my little sister...yet have you?" and then he wud like be embarrassed as if the "yet" part shouldnt have been said. he would still tell me that i meant the world to him and one day he wished i was his and he would tell me he missed me (i presumed that was more because we had lost touch a bit because the texts were less and less).

then.....at the end of those 2 weeks in work where he was being over friendly, i discovered he was seeing a really good mate of mine from work. they had been together a week and were keepin it on the hush, as she was like a good mate of mine, and her ex was the lads best mate. they had been together 2 weeks, which suggests why he stopped texting me as much, doesnt doesnt explain the physical contact and chatting that went on in work, but ive later discovered they had been texting for ages before. so he had basically had the both of us on the go!!

obviously i was gutted, as i was madly in love with him. and still to date about 3 weeks after it all came out im still gutted. how can i get over him? i think the pain has eased a little, and i dont sit around waiting for his texts that i know will never come now (although he did send oen last week!!) but i still think about him way toooo much and what makes matters worse is theyre so open, theyre all over each other in work and their comments on myspace its like deja vu readin what he sends her was exactly wot he wud say to me (its like rubbed in your face, as if on purpose, all stuff like i love you loads and u mean the world to me, and ill ring ya in a bit baby) im wondering if its done with like spite to get at me and make me feel jealous...it works!

one thing i promise a mate of mine though is that i wouldnt let it show in work, therefore when i found out i acted like i wasnt bothered, and i still do, but what makes it worse is that he now sometimes will say hello and sometimes blank me, its that not knowin that hurts, and plus the fact that why should he blank me when he is in the wrong and im totally innocent, everyone says im best off without him, but i still have feelings for him and it hurts so much, he has broken my heart!

does anyone have any ideas how to resolve me depression and get over him? it hurts so so much!

Laugh at the fool. When he gives u any acknowledgement tell him he bores u.