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bumblebee1 · Jun 8, 2007, 09:51 AM

I've been with my boyfriend for going on 8 years. I'll try to make this super short and leave out unimportant details. He's never liked giving oral sex to girls, he just doesn't like it. He used to give it to me occasionally now it is not at all for the last few years. I love it so much when he does it, and it hurts me that he refuses. I don't "like" or "enjoy" giving him oral sex, but I enjoy his response and I like to make him happy. I give him oral 3+ times a week to estimate.

Our first year or so together (keep in mind I was 16 at the time), I faked orgasms almost every time we had sex. I admitted it to him in our 2nd year, and never did it again. Since then, his oral has gotten fewer and fewer to none at all, and same with any sort of foreplay given to me. I feel like it is my fault because I have tried so many different things but I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex with anyone. He says it takes to long, and it's a turn off. I try my best! It really sucks never getting foreplay, and I'm always giving it to him every time. I've tried a lot of different things to make giving foreplay more pleasing... shaving down there; wearing hot clothes... none of it seems to matter. I even told him that if there was more foreplay I would probably have an easier time orgasm durning sex. He doesn't care at all! Hope this doesn't sound to raunchy but sometimes the most I can get from him are a few kisses while I get myself off, but even that is so rare its hardly worth mentioning. Its like a huge hassel for him to do anything for me.

We have good sex, but once he gets off it's over. I feel like I'm missing out, and I've tried talking to him and all he can say is "I don't like doing it" or "I'm not doing that". I understand he doesn't like it... but jeez, he doesn't seem to like doing ANYTHING to me except sticking it in...

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:02 AM

Well I would say stop giving him oral that's what I did to my girl. When she brought it up that I had stopped. I told her why and that if I didn't get it from her she wasn't getting it from me. Now every once and a while we give each other oral and it is great.

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:09 AM

I αgree with diαnbousα... however sound like your guy hαs the cαse of "lαzy lover" syndrom.. you should be upfront to him αbout it, stop hαving sex to mαke α point he's wαnting your VJ not you-- goddαmn buy him α fleshlight if he doesn't get the point!

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by saraispiel19

i αgree with diαnbousα... however sound like your guy hαs the cαse of "lαzy lover" syndrom.. you should be upfront to him αbout it, stop hαving sex to mαke α point he's wαnting your VJ not you-- goddαmn buy him α fleshlight if he doesn't get the point!

I'm actually a guy

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:11 AM

Never mind mis read your comment

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:15 AM

LOL αt first I thought the question person wαs α guy I wαs like oooo :D

MrsJoseph06 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:16 AM

I totally agree with the users above! You have been with this guy for 8 years! And he doesn't want to please you! Do you want to have this be your sex life for the rest of your life! Cut him off! Make a point that your not happy! And he needs to put some more effort into it!

bumblebee1 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:17 AM

Well he does enjoy oral but not enough to ask for it. He likes sex much more. I usually give him oral before sex as foreplay, but if I stopped he probably wouldn't care too much as long as he was having sex. I've thought about withholding sex, but I haven't yet, and I think that would make him mad lol

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:19 AM

My girl does it to me all the time if she wants something. Guess what she gets it. It sucks but it is true all you have to do is cut him off and you will get all you want if he really wants you.

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:47 AM

This is coming from α guy so common' now:)

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:51 AM

Originally Posted by saraispiel19

this is comming from α guy so common' now:)

What is that supposed to mean

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:54 AM

You sαid thαt you do whαt your girl wαnts when she stops hαving sex with you so I'm telling her if it's coming from α guy then do it since it obviously brings results:p lol this is your second missunderstαnding:p

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:55 AM

Originally Posted by saraispiel19

you sαid thαt you do whαt your girl wαnts when she stops hαving sex with you so i'm telling her if it's comming from α guy then do it since it obviously brings results:p lol this is your second missunderstαnding:p

Sorry I guess I'm just dumb today
Hey its Friday I'm aloud

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:56 AM

Yeαp guess you αre :p hαhα αloud don't you meαn αllowed..

*i guess todαy is jerk dαy for me todαy:D

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:58 AM

Yeah I guess I am bad today.

And thanks for pointing that out.

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:58 AM

Yeα I tend to do thαt

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 10:59 AM

OK then.

saraispiel19 · Jun 8, 2007, 11:00 AM

I think we're mαking α conversαtion out of her question

dianbousa · Jun 8, 2007, 11:01 AM

I think so and it is all your fault.

Bumblebee I hope we helped

les9999 · Sep 1, 2009, 04:46 AM

Hey, hun, tell him oral givs you the best ever orgasms and makes you want sex with him all the time, this will play to his ego, if he still duznt respond you got to consider dumping him, bad sex life bad life so to speak, it will just eat you up in the end, no pun intended lol