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zooropa1985 · Jun 7, 2007, 06:34 AM

Here there guys, here's the deal.

OK me and the ex have been split for 7 weeks now, isn't heard from her in 11 days.

We had the best relationship ever, we never argued except by text but it was little petty things and we never ever called each other names, we were both in love.

Anyhoo I send a joke text saying I don't want to go to her birthday party and she gets upset, I explain to her that it was only a joke and that I would deffinatly be at her party, we had all this sorted, then 4 days later she textes me to says its over.

I later find out that its over that text, her ex didn't show up at her birthday once and it hurt her big time, she said I was exploiting it, and that she lost trust and respect for me.

I said sorry a million times but she couldn't accept it.

Anyhoo she said she still wanted to be friends, then she started getting distant and would say that she's not ready for friendship yet.

She turned from the girl I love into a monster, begin nasty and lying to me.

Here's where I get annoyed, the so called ex that hurt her so, she was able to be friendly to him after the split, I even saw her flirt with him once online, she said it was only a bit o fun, how can she be friendly with him but want nothing to do with me?

She says she needs to rebuild trust and respect but can you do that by not letting the person into your life at all?

tickle · Jun 7, 2007, 08:32 AM

I would say, my dear, that she cares for you more then she likes to admit and is putting up a barrier to make you the way she wants. In other words she is trying to manipulate you into submission and not going about it properly at all, IMO. She wants you to crawl on your knees and apologize. Its up to you. I would give her the silent treatment for a couple of weeks and see how far that gets you. I think it will work. She will be the one crawling back (figuratively speaking of course).

No, you can't build trust and respect without trying it on first. A very immature statement, IMO.

zooropa1985 · Jun 7, 2007, 08:38 AM

Maybe you are right but I've begged her and told her how sorry I was, it only seems to be making her even more distant, maybe that's just her way of dealing with it, I was her first love too so maybe she has feelings she's never felt before.

I want to sit down and tell her how much she means to me.

emopunk7 · Jun 7, 2007, 08:40 AM

I think she already knows... U can't drill it in. Just let go and find someone else... Atleast give it a try... What happened to that other girl?

zooropa1985 · Jun 7, 2007, 08:46 AM

Well I'm meeting her next week but to be honest I'm not in the mood man, ill give it a shot but the thought of going through the whole process again, dam lol

Jiser · Jun 7, 2007, 08:49 AM

Simple: don't go!

emopunk7 · Jun 7, 2007, 09:22 AM

Jiser... He is suppose to meet the new girl... not the ex... I think he should go!

tickle · Jun 7, 2007, 09:45 AM

Its like I said, you are going to have patience if you want to get on her good side again. Leave off for a while, do you own thing, play the waiting game and maybe let her know inadvertently that you are dating someone else. You are going to have to be BRUTAL.