[roo504]

Can any one help me??
OK there's this guy named david and I love him so much and he told me he loves me too but he told me he won't go out with me because he don't want to hurt me but I love him so much he feels like the only one for me and if I stop likeing him I tell him I only like you as a friend then he gets made at me and then if I get a new boyfriend he starts to hate me and then I start to like him even more then we get closer like one day we went to a park and we talked we kissed and then he fingered me but he had a girlfriend and now she wants to kill me and then david tries to go out with one of my friends and it hurts me so much! Then he tells me he doesn't want to go out with me because I'm emo but I ant then he tells me he don't want to go out with me because I'm to deprest but his the one who made my deprest I mean why would he go threw that much then just blow me away?? :confused:

[shygrneyzs]

My dear poor confused girl, I do not know what this guy is getting out of telling you he loves you but cannot date you. A guy like that is called many things, not many of them nice, but he is as confused as you are. The two of you do not belong together. Honestly. Truly. You two are not meant to be a bf/gf at this time.

He does not really know what he wants or who he wants. He says he is afraid of hurting you, Why, is he planning on hurting you if you two start dating? See how ironic that is. It is true that no one can predict how a relationship will turn out. It might be good for a month, a year, three years, maybe 20 years. But there are just as many chances that this does not work out at all.

Maybe that is what this guy is thinking. If you two do date and it goes wrong, then you would be hurt. You know what? There is no one, NO ONE in this world that can be in any kind of relationship and not get hurt at some point in the relationship. No one can ever guarantee a painless relationship. You have to learn how to deal with the disappointments, the sorrows, the hurt, and go on with life.

I noticed you did not give your ages. I suspect you two are fairly young yet. One thing, you will have more than one boyfriend in your life. This guy will have more than one girlfriend too. Just the way it is.

You mentioned that you are depressed. Have you sought help for your depression? There is help out there. Depression does not have to be your lifesstyle. It does not have to keep you down in the dumps. There is help. I do not know what you have read about depression. Here are some sources, although you should really see your doctor, who can refer you to a specialist. If you have seen a doctor and are under a doctor's care, then perhaps go back to the doctor and explain how you are still feeling.

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