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rachie · May 31, 2007, 04:22 PM

I am an emotional wreck. I just had a baby 8 weeks ago and I am back on the pill. I don't know if it is hormones or what, but sometimes I am fine, and then sometimes I feel so hopeless and depressed like my life is falling apart. I hate this. How do you tell the diference between post partum depression and regular hormone sings? I just don't know, and I don't like to overreact. But I don't feel like myself at all. Can a pill affect you this much?? :confused:

Rockabilly1955mama · May 31, 2007, 04:23 PM

Yes, it can. But is there anything else going on in your life that can be causing these symptoms as well?

danielnoahsmommy · May 31, 2007, 04:24 PM

Honey it is ppd post partum depression. Your doc can put you on a drug like Lexapro. It will make you feel a ton better. And it's not long term. Just until your hormones settle down. Contact your doc right away so he can help you

rachie · May 31, 2007, 04:47 PM

Well I have been through a bit in the past few years... my best friend died in iraq in 2004, which completely devastated me. My husband at the time couldn't deal with me being a "miserable person" all the time and kicked me out of our house in 2005 wanting a divorce. I found out he had been cheating on me for 5+ years, and he gave me a (curable thank god) STD as well to prove it.
I have since fallen in love with a wonderful man, I couldn't ask for better... we are married and have a beautiful new baby boy(although he was too unplanned) and I have a wonderful stepdaughter. I have everything to be thankful for, but somehow I still find my stresses catching up with me.
My baby was hospitalized for seizures and is on meds right now, which is another stress... and my husbands ex (the baby mama) makes our life very difficult at times. She shows up at family functions (that have nothing to do with the daughter,) calls my mother in law "mom" and all sorts of irritating stressful things. I can't even have a family dinner without her showing up.
All these things combined have left me a little stressed id say... and wondering if I have a problem, or if I should just get over it. I don't want to get on medication if I don't need it, and my family frowns upon ppd as if it is an imaginary disease.
On top of everything else I use to be extremely athletic before my pregnancy and do martial arts, run marathons. I developed toxemia and gained SO much weight I feel like I will never be the same. My husband tells me I am beautiful to him no matter what, and he is wonderful, but I miss my old self. I hate who I see in the mirror. My cloths don't fit, I'm out of shape, I had to drop out of school and my future seems to be a haze of diaper changes and laundry. Am I a terrible mother??

danielnoahsmommy · May 31, 2007, 04:53 PM

Listen you have to be your own advocate. Do what you have to do to feel better. It sounds like you have a great husband sit down and talk to him.

rockerchick_682 · May 31, 2007, 05:00 PM

I'm sure it's the hormones on top of the depression. Hormones can effect you a lot.
Like the other person said, you could take depression pills, I'm on Lexapro and it works for me, but not everyone. It works for a lot of women and has low side-effects. I'd talk to your doctor and maybe wait a while and see if your hormones settle out

rachie · May 31, 2007, 05:06 PM

Thanks!

rockerchick_682 · May 31, 2007, 05:07 PM

Originally Posted by rachie

well i have been through a bit in the past few years...my best friend died in iraq in 2004, which completely devestated me. my husband at the time couldnt deal with me being a "miserable person" all the time and kicked me out of our house in 2005 wanting a divorce. i found out he had been cheating on me for 5+ years, and he gave me a (curable thank god) STD as well to prove it.
i have since fallen in love with a wonderful man, i couldnt ask for better...we are married and have a beautiful new baby boy(although he was too unplanned) and i have a wonderful stepdaughter. i have everything to be thankful for, but somehow i still find my stresses catching up with me.
my baby was hospitalized for seizures and is on meds right now, which is another stress...and my husbands ex (the baby mama) makes our life very difficult at times. she shows up at family functions (that have nothing to do with the daughter,) calls my mother in law "mom" and all sorts of irritating stressful things. i can't even have a family dinner without her showing up.
all these things combined have left me a little stressed id say....and wondering if i have a problem, or if i should just get over it. i dont want to get on medication if i dont need it, and my family frowns upon ppd as if it is an imaginary disease.
on top of everything else i use to be extremely athletic before my pregnancy and do martial arts, run marathons. i developed toxemia and gained SO much weight i feel like i will never be the same. my husband tells me i am beautiful to him no matter what, and he is wonderful, but i miss my old self. i hate who i see in the mirror. my cloths dont fit, im out of shape, i had to drop out of school and my future seems to be a haze of diaper changes and laundry. am i a terrible mother???

I think the best advice I can give you is to go see a psychologist. You can talk to him/her and figure all these things out. You've been through a LOT! Way more than most people, so it makes sense that you're stressed out and depressed sometimes. Nothing you said made you seem like a bad mother. Everyone's overweight after a baby, but that doesn't mean you can't lose it. I don't think you NEED medication, but I take lexapro, and for me it made me more stable and less anxious. Tell this chick that keeps invading into family stuff to screw off. She isn't part of your family

rockerchick_682 · May 31, 2007, 05:29 PM

This is the woman your husband cheated on you with right?
I think she needs to stick with her and her ex-husband's family. She has no right to be talking to you at all. I believe you have every right to tell her to stay out of your business

rachie · May 31, 2007, 05:36 PM

OH no! The man I am married to now has never cheated--he is great! I am divorced from the loser one... I know, fast to be married again so soon, but my current husband is my friend, lover, and everything... he is "the one" for sure, I am so lucky. He has a daughter with his ex girlfriend (they were never married) and she is obnoxiously worming her way into every aspect of our lives that she can. She never treated dan (my hubby) right (I have know him for years and thought he was a great guy who deserved better) and now she only wants him back because its too late. She doesn't love him, I think she just has the "if i can't have him ill make your life hell" attitude. So far, I have been trying the kill her with kindness route, but I am just sick to death of her. I know she will be in our lives because of why stepdaughter and that's fine... but there's a limit. :eek:

rachie · May 31, 2007, 05:48 PM

Sorry to go so off-topic... the hormones again! Lol

rockerchick_682 · May 31, 2007, 05:49 PM

Originally Posted by rachie

OH no! the man i am married to now has never cheated--he is great!! i am divorced from the loser one....i know, fast to be married again so soon, but my current husband is my friend, lover, and everything...he is "the one" for sure, i am so lucky. he has a daughter with his ex girlfriend (they were never married) and she is obnoxiously worming her way into every aspect of our lives that she can. she never treated dan (my hubby) right (i have know him for years and thought he was a great guy who deserved better) and now she only wants him back because its too late. she doesnt love him, i think she just has the "if i can't have him ill make your life hell" attitude. so far, i have been trying the kill her with kindness route, but i am just sick to death of her. i know she will be in our lives because of y stepdaughter and thats fine...but theres a limit. :eek:

lol oh OK, way off
I'm glad you found the right one and got rid of the idiot^_^. I think maybe your husband should say something. She's obviously just trying to annoy you, and she's being very very rude. Someone has to tell her to screw off, anyone, just get rid of her. Unless it has to do with her daughter, she shouldn't bet there

J_9 · May 31, 2007, 08:41 PM

Rachie, Let me say that you are not alone in what you are going through. Many many women experience post partum depression and it is a real disorder, not imaginary as some think. However, not every woman suffers PPD, many suffer from the "Baby Blues" that is a totally different beast. LOL

You have so much on your plate right now that it is amazing you are holding together at all.

As for your husband's ex... that is a toughy since she is and will be connected with his family for life (since they have a child together), but it would be better if your husband dealt with this.

There are many many meds that can be used for the baby blues or PPD, Lexapro is not the only one. There are others such as Celexa that can be used short term to help you through this.

It would be in your best interest to start by talking to your OB/GYN about what you are going through and let him/her make a determination as to how seriously you are suffering this and if you do need to seek professional help. Your doc can also prescribe these meds if you do not need to see a therapist.

ononotagain · Oct 18, 2010, 12:48 AM

I relate to you rachie. I feel alone and guilty and like a bad person for feeling unhappy eventhoguh I have so much to be thankful for. I too wonder is this post partum dep or just the real me. I am afraid my husband ill eventually leave me. Sigh.

By the way... I would explain more but this site only lets you comment on someone with a couple lines! Even though I feel so bad I try to think things will get better. Hang in there, you are a good person and a good caring mom! -christy