[vebee]

I am married.but before marriage I was in love with someone.Since my boyfriend and I belong to different religions,we had to breakup.At that time we both were unemployed.so couldn't afford marriage.My parents were forcing me to get married.so I didn't had any chioce but marry some other guy.Now I have got a job.My husband is also a nice guy.After 1 yr of marriage I met my ex boyfriend.I feel like chating with my ex boyfriend.Feel like talking to him.I don't know but I can't control myself.I don't whatever I am doing is right or not.I don't want to hurt my husband.I don't want hurt my boyfriend.I am confused help me:confused:

[Clough]

If you don't want to hurt your husband, I would suggest not getting really involved with your ex-boyfriend very much other than some casual chatting. You made a commitment by becoming married. If it is going well, then I would stick with it. I hope that you also love your husband.

You can control yourself. If you don't then who is going to control you? It sounds like your mother already did to an extent. I don't know where you live, so I don't know about the social customs where you are concerning marriage. They may be very different from where I live.

Being married to someone from a different religion can work, and I have seen it work. But, when you are living with someone and sharing everything as much as possible with each other, it helps if the two of you already share some cominality concerning your religious beliefs. Being married is a lot different than just dating.

There have been many women in my past with whom I have been in love. I only married one. That doesn't mean that I still don't love the others. It's just that we had to go our separate ways once the "knot" of marriage was tied. A commitment to someone else had been made. A commitment is a promise.

[Makiavelic76]

I can said, that I had a girlfriend of 5 years, and I loved her with all my heart and mind, and now after quite some time I just figure it out that life is a sum of many choices and factors. She had not the best advises from her mom, about marriage, and at that I knew she influenced her dau to think I was not a good catch (financially spoken).
Love exist but usually love face each principles of the lovers, and that's when real decisions will command the rest of your life.
Thank God, I enjoy a productive and happy life now (financially too lol), and I have seen my ex, she's now married (6 months after we broke up), I known by now that she made a influenced and pressed decision over it, and I even knew that she still claim to love me, but I think life is made of the choices you make and how you deal with it. My boat just sailed away and I wished the best for her and her new family. And I'm saying this with all my heart because she deserves to be happy, to learn from her mistakes and to love and protect and care from who she embraces now.
If your husband is a good man, fade into him and get to know him better and deeply and respect him and enjoy him... that is REAL love.