[lifes lessons]

Hello I'm new to this, I've been really worried lately in fact thisis making me feel ill with worry, I've been with my partner for two years and nearly one year ago we decided to try to have a baby and nothing, I've not had one pregnancy test come back positive I've been praying I'm going to miss my period and be pregnant and I don't understand why this is happening to me and him, my family is very fertile my mum my gran they allhad kids easilly, all my friends are having children and its making me so jelous and angry and upset I need to meet some people who understand what I'm going through as I find it hard talking to my 'pregnant' friends! Please help me .

[shygrneyzs]

Hello.

Well, just because your family is "fertile" does not mean you are infertile because of your not becoming pregnant. If you are truly worried about your fertility, then you should be saying all this to your OB/GYN. There are tests you can receive that can determine your fertility. Please remember that a man can have fertility problems also, so your partner should undergo testing, if your testing comes back normal.

Also, it could be that your body is stressed out from the anxiety, anger, and frustration you are experiencing when you test negative. How many times have you read of, or heard of, a couple who could not conceive and so they adopted a child. Only to find out, perhaps a year later or so, that the woman is pregnant. The couple relaxed, especially the woman.

So do not give up hope. Hope is there until you absolutely know that both of you are medically incapable of conceiving a child. Even then, there are medical alternatives.

Wishing you the very best.

[lifes lessons]

OK thank you for advice

[shygrneyzs]

Most welcome. Be patient with yourself. May your wish for a child come true.

[lifes lessons]

Thank you so much :)