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UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 10:45 AM

Ive been this girl for on/off for about 3 years now. When we weren't going out we had other small relationships.Now I'm having troubles getting over the fact that she's been kind "slutty" with a few guys doing a fair few sexual acts and whatnot.now the prob is is that I had one relationship where I didn't really score much but my currant did with all those guys.Now she says that it was easy because she had now feelings for them and say that's its hard for her to so she cares in phiscal ways because she "loves" me.Now am I being selfish that I'm not much physical attention when a lot of other guys did?In a way U could Say I'm almost a virgin compared to her.

fix-what-you-broke · May 23, 2007, 10:48 AM

So if you had of had a few conquests and she didn't would that be OK?

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 10:52 AM

But that's the point,if I was her I wouldn't like it but because I'm in her shoes I can say I don't like it.

fix-what-you-broke · May 23, 2007, 10:58 AM

You said when you wernt going out one time she did this, that to me says you were not together as a couple, so she can pretty much do what she likes.
She is with you.. be thankful for that.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 11:22 AM

Maybe I don't know, but most of those guys she did stuff with only wanted her for that "stuff" and treated her like .I like her a heap and she even said to me one day she glad I never push her into things but really I wouldn't mind a bit off attention in the aspect.In the end I still think to myself good guy finish last...

smoothy · May 23, 2007, 11:27 AM

Who says this, these guys or her. Guys tend to lie... quite a bit in fact when it comes to sex matters, particularly when young because they think they can make themselves look like big studs when they aren't anything of the kind.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 11:29 AM

Everything I know was said from her and I know one of the guys and I know what he says about currant girlfriend... makes me want to punch him

smoothy · May 23, 2007, 11:40 AM

Well maybe there was simple sex but not anything to the degree that the guys said. Young guys are known to embellish stories a bit to put it mildly. She on the other hand is more likely to be honest if she tells you about it at all.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 11:55 AM

Yea that's what's concerns me the fact that she was so honest about it,but I'm not sure what to think when she said that was stone for most one night stands.

smoothy · May 23, 2007, 11:58 AM

Don't fret the honesty part... I'd rather hear it from her than from my friends. At least you know she's being straight with you. A lot of women will run around (sleep around) on you and never be straight about such tings.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 12:03 PM

Yea that maybe true but I can't seem to get the nice guys finish last bit out of my head,I mean If I treat her much better then rest why does "love" have to do with sexual drive in a serious relationship.

smoothy · May 23, 2007, 12:05 PM

Some women despite common sense go for the bad boys... they usually come to their senses long after most of the nice guys are married off and happy in their lives.

About the sex... well its odd she jumps with them and not with you... personally if she did that and not with me she would be history in about a month. Way I see it I wonder why she puts out for others so easily but not for me is we "have something".

If she's looking for you to buy stuff all the time you found your answer of what she's after. Why work for dinner if someone offers it to you for free. Then maybe there is just too much incompatibility between how you and her view the act. I've been though that before years ago. But that was long before the WWW and nobody was able to give me advice. I eventually came to my senses and moved on.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 12:13 PM

Yea another funny thing there is she hates it with a passion when I buy her things,we have had major aguments about it,id try to politly say that I want to pay once in a while and shed yell at me so I'm at a lose there... I had to force myself to stop showing care for her because she didn't like it but then shed shower me with gifts,dinner,etc

smoothy · May 23, 2007, 12:22 PM

Originally Posted by UnwantedHero

yea another funny thing there is she hates it with a passion when I buy her things,we have had major aguments bout it,id try to politly say that i wanna pay once in a while and shed yell at me so im at a lose there...I had to force myself to stop showing care for her coz she didnt like it but then shed shower me with gifts,dinner,etc

Hmmm, maybe she really does like you... I'd give her a bit of time... she is making overt gestures, so she deserves the benefit of the doubt, for a while anyway. I honestly can say I had a similar situation as well. It didn't work out for reasons I won't go into in case she is a member here. Caused me major stress but she still does have a place in my heart if not in my life. Probably always will too. However I do avoid her as I'm married now and wife does not deserve to be subjected to that.

UnwantedHero · May 23, 2007, 12:32 PM

Yea your probably right maybe its an easy solvable issue that takes time and communication to resolve in the end.Well at least I hope so.Id hate to lose her considering she's been the only girl who's ever wanted me for more then a week... lol.

laodemon22 · Jun 3, 2007, 01:15 AM

Originally Posted by smoothy

Some women despite common sense go for the bad boys....they usually come to their senses long after most of the nice guys are married off and happy in their lives.

About the sex....well its odd she jumps with them and not with you...personally if she did that and not with me she would be history in about a month. Way I see it I wonder why she puts out for others so easily but not for me is we "have something".

If she's looking for you to buy stuff all the time you found your answer of what she's after. Why work for dinner if someone offers it to you for free. Then maybe there is just too much incompatibility between how you and her view the act. I've been though that before years ago. But that was long before the WWW and nobody was able to give me advice. I eventually came to my senses and moved on.

You know.. that second part.. is what I don't get. Yea that bugs me when my girlfriend did so much for the other guys yet she refuse to do certain with me. Also I don't get it when you say "we have something". If we had something going on wouldn't it be just as easy to do thing as they did for other guys they call buttholes? See that is something I will never get and it make me so up set :mad:

smoothy · Jun 11, 2007, 08:35 AM

Originally Posted by laodemon22

You know.. that second part.. is what i dont get. Yea that bugs me when my gf did so much for the other guys yet she refuse to do certain with me. Also I dont get it when you say "we have something". If we had something going on wouldn't it be just as easy to do thing as they did for other guys they call buttholes? See that is something I will never get and it make me so up set :mad:

Well, That's where women are mysteries to most guys... who knows what thought process allows her to arrive at that logic.

Personally I can say I've known a couple women like that in the past. I found that finding a woman that doesn't act that way caused me far less stress in the long run. Took me a while to come to that realization as well. Longer than it should have in hind sight.