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Mad and Crazy · May 15, 2007, 02:23 PM

A few days ago I returned after 10 months military duty abroad only to see my wife as an expectant mother in eight months.She was impregnated by 15 y.o.boy .What I have to do?To kill her,to call the police for child statuory rape or something else?Too bad for my children.

Matt3046 · May 15, 2007, 02:28 PM

It's probably not such a hot idea to kill her. Go and get some legal advice before you do anything. In the mean time stay away from her and enlist a buddy to keep you out of trouble.

GV70 · May 15, 2007, 02:31 PM

Fill for divorce and put the paternity question.

shygrneyzs · May 15, 2007, 02:47 PM

I am genuinely sorry you came home to such a mess. She broke the law by having sexual relations with this teen. You could make something out of that. You do need to contact an attorney - as of yesterday already. Know your rights and fight for them legally. Yes, I would be tempted to commit murder but that does not get you very far in the long run and your children would miss both parents then. I don't know why you would not receive custody of your children. As for your wife, she needs to be in jail. Does this boy's parents know about their pending grandchild?

Get an attorney, avoid contact with the wife, stay with friends, don't let your anger cloud your actions. I know that is easy for me to say, but you do not need to borrow trouble right now. Take care and the very best to you and your children.

Fr_Chuck · May 15, 2007, 08:12 PM

I was asked to respond but I have little to add over that of shygrneyzs, doing anyone any hard will not help anything, first the baby she carries is innocent and does not deserve any harm.

And of course you could be wrong and it could be by someone else also, only DNA latter will tell that. For now what is important, is getting a good divorce attorney, getting custody of your children and getting her reported to the police.

AW805 · May 15, 2007, 09:22 PM

I agree. Just to add, you should see the legal office on your military base immediately if you haven't already. They will help you with the resources available to get you through this difficult time.

Marily · May 16, 2007, 01:44 AM

I can imagine how you must feel. If I can give you advice it will be not to act upon what you feel at the moment because feelings are bound to change. According to the bible you can put her away, then again I don't know of what faith you are. If I were in your position I would have pray for guidance before making any drastic decisions.

Mad and Crazy · May 16, 2007, 09:02 AM

Originally Posted by GV70

Fill for divorce and put the paternity question.

It was done.

Originally Posted by shygrneyzs

I don't know why you would not receive custody of your children. As for your wife, she needs to be in jail. Does this boy's parents know about their pending grandchild?

Yes-they know and they are very scared.

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

And of course you could be wrong and it could be by someone else also, only DNA latter will tell that. for now what is important, is getting a good divorce attorney, getting custody of your children and getting her reported to the police.

OK but what will happen after that?

talaniman · May 16, 2007, 04:52 PM

She goes to jail depending on what the courts say, and you can try to put your life together. For the sake of your kids the sooner the better. Get someone to talk to for yourself.

Mad and Crazy · May 22, 2007, 09:12 AM

I am not sure what I want... if she goes to jail kids will be motherless... if she doesn't go to jail-I will be obligated to pay support and to act like a father next 18 or 22 years.

GV70 · May 22, 2007, 09:34 AM

Originally Posted by Mad and Crazy

I am not sure what I want...if she goes to jail kids will be motherless...if she doesn't go to jail-I will be obligated to pay support and to act like a father next 18 or 22 years.

Fill for divorce and state there is no expected children...

RubyPitbull · May 22, 2007, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by Mad and Crazy

I am not sure what I want...if she goes to jail kids will be motherless...if she doesn't go to jail-I will be obligated to pay support and to act like a father next 18 or 22 years.

You have received some very good advice here from those that have responded to your post.

This is a very difficult situation. I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I know it is a lot to digest and cope with, but do you really want to have her around your children? Your children would be so much better off with you and whatever extended family and friends you have as support. Children can grow up fine without a mother. As long as they have one parent who will be there for them consistently, they will be okay. Your own mother, a sister, or a female friend, can help fill in the gaps when you need help. If your wife is around your children it is more than likely that she will minimize what she has done and will teach your children that her behavior is normal and acceptable. She is an adult and knowingly had sex with a minor. When you imagine an adult male having sex with a 15 year old female, you know that he will be arrested and charged with rape. What your wife has done is no different. It is completely illegal to have sex with a minor, and she must be prosecuted under the law. If that means jail time, so be it. That 15 year old boy is not to blame here and she has ruined his life in doing this. He will now be tied to supporting that baby for the next 18 to 22 years. I am very surprised his parents are scared, rather than angry. Most parents would have immediately had her arrested when they found out about it. I think it would be wise to seek out whatever help the military is willing to give you. Legal counsel, family counseling, financial counseling,. whatever help you can find there. Please post back and let us know how you are doing. You can always use this forum to vent.

shygrneyzs · May 22, 2007, 12:20 PM

Ruby is right - children can grow up just fine without having their biological mother. Don't fall for the "kids need their mother" card.