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BigJG · May 19, 2007, 10:13 PM

First off, I really don't consider myself a true Christian. I believe in God, but I'm not what you would call a Born Again Christian. I've never really given any thought about it, until I met this girl not long ago. We actually met online, but she only lives about 3 hours from me. We seemed to hit it off from the start. I really enjoy her company. One time when we were talking she was telling me how great she thought I was. However, she said the only thing she didn't like about me was that I wasn't a Christian. So here's my dilemma: I can stay the way I am in terms of religion and just be friends with her, or I can become born again and maybe something will happen between us. The only problem is, that presents another dilemma. If I don't do this for myself, isn't that wrong?

Retrotia · May 19, 2007, 11:49 PM

Actually I think this may be a calling for you. God sends certain people into our lives to draw us to Him.
Actually becoming born again is something that will ultimately be for YOU- no matter whether you remain friends or get into a serious relationship with this person.
I recommend a little book called "Praying God's Promises" Some of the blessings/promises are as follows: abundance, victory, hope, faith, peace, joy, growth, righteousness, wisdom, power, protection, eternal life, revival, rest, faith, trust, stability, strength, love, the Holy Spirit, patience, kindness, goodness, health, sound mind, security, dominion, deliverance, truth, forgiveness, & countless other gifts from the hands of God.
A new birth, justified(as if we had never sinned) A new creature!
So I hope you will accept Christ as your personal Lord and Savior either in a church or privately.
God Bless You.

Marily · May 20, 2007, 05:51 AM

You should only get born again because you personally want to serve the Lord with your heart, doing it because you want a relationship with someone is just plain wrong.

talaniman · May 20, 2007, 06:13 AM

What if you convert, and this goes no where after a while? Will you still stay in the religion? If your not doing it for yourself, then your doing it for the wrong reasons, and need to rethink being with this female. Women come and go, but your personal relationship with a God that you understand, is the most important one you will ever have, no matter the religion.

krystal1973 · May 20, 2007, 06:39 AM

Maybe this is your calling from God! But the answers you have gotten are very true, you must be saved because you are Personally called to be saved. At least this is the way I believe. God works in mysterious ways, and he certainly does and can use other people in our life to reach out to you.
As far as your relationship goes with a person who says that they are Christian and insists that you must also be, that's a judgment call that you must make. You could wake up tomorrow and be saved and your Christian status could change. I doubt when she told you that it bothered her that you weren't a Christian meant that she wanted you to run and be one real quick. She was probably just making you aware of the fact that it was important to her. In becoming a Christian, you will have a true change of heart on the situtation, and it won't necessarily be your first concern on rather or not she considers you a christian or not.
As far as people joining churches, or joining into other religions I have seen a lot of people do this in order to please someone else.(not everyone though) This is typically for outward appearances only, and doesn't have too much to do with rather or not you are a Christian.

Fr_Chuck · May 20, 2007, 07:09 AM

Born again has nothing to do with going to a church every Sunday, or what religion you claim to belong to. It is a personal relastionship with God through Christ.

Now this could be a call for you to be involved in a church and though it, you will get a personal call upon your heart to accept Christ.

So if you feel you want a close relationship with God you do it for yourself, but beyond that, you just be honest with the Girl

Tessy777 · May 20, 2007, 12:00 PM

You can't become a born again Christian for someone else... you can SAY you are but to really do it is another thing. It is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and it doesn't have anything to do with anyone else. It is a decision that only you can make for you. However you can start going to a Christian church, Bible studies, prayer groups... but that isn't the same as being born again.

ordinaryguy · May 20, 2007, 03:12 PM

Originally Posted by BigJG

So here's my dilemma: I can stay the way I am in terms of religion and just be friends with her, or I can become born again and maybe something will happen between us. The only problem is, that presents another dilemma. If I don't do this for myself, isn't that wrong?

Getting "born again" to get a girl? I don't know if it's wrong, you'd have to ask God about that, but it sure seems shallow to me. But as others have suggested, maybe it's God's way of tricking you into getting religion. God works in mysterious ways, I hear.

BigJG · May 20, 2007, 07:50 PM

Thanks to all those who answered. In thinking about this, I probably should have never had to ask this question. Doing something just to please someone else is never the answer. This would be something that I would have to do for myself, and right now it's not something I want or feel I need for myself. That may change with time. The cons definitely outweighed the pros in this situation. I just don't think it would be wise for me to do something as big as this unless it's for myself. Thanks again.

Canada_Sweety · Jul 25, 2007, 12:31 PM

Being born again is something that YOU have to want for your own self, not so you can get a girl. Of course you will not be able to live your life the exact same way as before, but it's worth it in the end:p
God wants this for you, but do you? More importantly, do you want to go to Heaven in the end?