[gurlie319]

My best friend is a guy (I am a girl) and he is involved in a long distance relationship with a girl he met (I'll call her Erica) when he lived in the Netherlands last year. Normally, me, him, and my other best friend (a girl we'll call Kelly) hang out together all the time. However, recently we hang out alone together a lot because Kelly just started dating another guy. I don't like him at all other than as friends, but it feels weird to me because of Erica. He's planning on moving back to the Netherlands after college to marry her (we're juniors in high school, and will be seniors when school ends in a week), which I know he's serious about because I've known him for a long time, and can tell when he really wants something.

Emotionally, I feel unstable about it simply because I know that if she lived here, we wouldn't be best friends, or hang out nearly as much. After all, when you get married, you can't have your spouse AND a best friend of the opposite sex. Is this unusual, or is there anything I can do about it?

Help would be appreciated,
Danielle

[greenonion]

My advice to you is to try your best to make friends with your best friend's girlfriend. Once you earn her trust, you can still be friends with him. It's possible that he will most likely be focusing more on her and that's something you have to realize, but you should also realize that if he is really worth it as a best friend, you should try your hardest to make friends with her. :) good luck with everything

greenonion