[Jiser]

Hey all, me again. Seeing my ex first time in 4 months. Going clubbing with mutual friends, her ex's, her friends and mine. Its her birthday. She has also asked to meet for a drink together some time. Any advise for tonight eeek. Plan to keep it cool, not expecting nything, be nice, maybe a bit of flurting, not take it personally if she goes off with anyone and just have a nice time. Ive allways got friends to go off with if things get awkard. :P any way wish me luck, FRIEND ZONE Here we come :P

p.s. I am nervous

[phoenix1664]

As you said just keep it cool don't expect anything and have a good time don't fret you will be fine you have done the hard bit now just be yourself,

Good luck.

[mckenzie134]

Jiser you have given plenty of advice on here and like they say its easy to give but hard to take. Think of what you have told others eventhat probably won't put you in the rightstate of mind. I will tell you why , Ive followed your threads and as much as you know what to do and play it cool, deep down in side of jiser yourself you want her back. See when you met someone for the first time and you wantthem hat is fine but you don't send off signals because you may want them but don't know thm so you have an air of mystery about you. Problem is you already know your girlfriend so there is no mystery at work to help you. Although she may not have known what you have been up to she does know you well and would be thinking she might be some hope.The problem with all this is that if you talk you sem keen if yopu donttalk you can seem rude or pissed off som its ery hard to playthis one especially when you still have feelings.

You know what youhave o do just play it cool and say hi but don't say too much.

I have worked out the best plan in these situations is to not talk o much to her for she is the one that dumpee you so really you owe her nothing. She lost you if she wants you back she's going to have to work for itse had her chance and blew it, remember that less talk to her will hlp you more.

Im hoping you get back in there JISER let us know how you went!!

[Jiser]

Its going to be hard tnght! Going to just go there and have fun! Say happy birthday, catch up a bit and move on. As you said she will have to put more work in than me, there's going to be to many people viying for her attention so I doubt it :( Mebe that's why she wants to meet up for a drink sum time. We shall see.

[phoenix1664]

I tell you what now I am freeked I have just been asked to have one by my ex ho very weird, but as you said its all about having fun.

[Jiser]

Fun fun fun! If you drink a bottle of vodka before you go it makes it all so easier :) + You don't get to remember what happens in the morning . WOOP WOOP !

[phoenix1664]

Lol now that there is great advice lol

[AW805]

I'm not sure what kind of advise you want. Are you wanting to get back together with her?