[farah777]

I have been dating this guy for 4 months and we just broke up. Since it's a long distnace relationship a lot of misunderstandings has been going on between us. Basically, the main reason we broke up is because that I went clubbing twice in a row without messaging him during the club making him know that he's still on my mind. Since he says that I have done it more than once he said this upseted him and that he couldn't handle this anymore. Although I know he was right in just about everything he said I just feel guilty with all what I did. Then I called after the two day break up just wanting the main reason he broke up with me in the end he says that he still loves me and will always do. And that he has never been happy with anyone like he was with me. And that he wishes that one day he will marry a girl that is just like me. I told him that I miss him and I paused a lot during the phone wanting to tell him to give me another chance but I couldn't spill it out. He kept on saying just say whatever is on your mind but I couldn't do it. I was scared. Im sure he knew what I wanted to say but I couldn't get it out. He said that he will always be there for me no matter what and if I needed anything I should go to him. But I think I should give it another try but I really need help in how to say it and convince him that it will never happen again because I don't think I can live without him. Help

[Rockabilly1955mama]

Hey honey.

You have to talk to him. It's best if you can do it in person and look in his eyes when you tell him to give you another chance, so he knows that you're being real. But also, if that's not possible, since it's a long distance relationship, the phone will do.
But I would advise in person better.

I'm sure everything will turn out good. Good luck!

[talaniman]

Just me, but why should you feel guilty about having good clean fun. Maybe that's why you are having trouble stroking his ego and insecurities. Something to think about.

[gypsy456]

First of all... you can live without him.
You have lived without him before you met him and you will be perfectly able to live without him should things go wrong...

Secondly... this man seems very possessive.
Why would you have to phone him when you are going out to let him know you are still thinking of him ? That's quite insecure, isn't it ?

Think hard and deep... is this what you want for yourself in a relationship ?
Now it's a long distance relationship and it's only been 4 months... what happens is you are living in the same town, the same house...
To me this behaviour is a sign...
He could have said: "Enjoy your evening, call me in the morning so you can tell me all about it"... that's -to me- a completely different thing.

This does not sound too good to me.


Good luck