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Is it Really Over?
This story is so long and complicated but I will synthesize. I was dating this man for 8 months. Before we started dating I broke up with him because I was not over my ex yet. We ended up casually hooking up again but he dumped me telling me I acted irrational after he had told me had gone to coffee with another woman. I took that as him hedging his bets and breaking up with me because he had someone else lined up. I begged for him back for a while because I was an idiot and eventually didn't win. A week later he messaged me saying that he missed me. I was baffled and I called him the next day, to which he responded that he thought he had made a mistake and didn't know that he was talking about. With a long hard struggle we eventually started dating again and did till this April. During the 8 months we did many things together, he said he loved me and nothing seemed to be the problem. We had two little tiffs ( I wouldn't even call them a fight) the first was over me asking him to buy me a coffee before work and he showed my his body language that he did not want to, failing to let me know that he had meetings early that day, so I took it as him not wanting to do something nice for me. I was a little upset and knowing that he is sensitive I said maybe we should let things cool off for the day, because I did not want to say something I would regret. That eventually blew over and then a couple weeks after he went to an event in another town, that I was unable to attend due to working conditions. I missed him and I always make sure to text him or call him when I am out cause I know how sensitive he is. He didn't call me and I texted him really upset and it ended up that swore at him on one of the text messages that I had sent. The next he broke up with me and he said it was because I swore at him, but really that night I went over to his place and asked him for more details. He mentioned his age and my age being that I am only 24 and he is 30 and ready to settle down, but really I am ready to settle down and I felt discriminated against by my age considering I had asked him only a week ago if he was okay with the age difference. He then mentioned that I was not as loving and responsive to all his needs and I asked him why he felt that way and had never told me. Plus I was confused as to why he had not understood how stressed out near the end of march as I had received 5 out of 8 rejections from universities, was getting ready for a very important interview with the government for a job position (which was 2 days after he dumbed me) and I knew that maybe I was not as giving of my emotions as I had been the past 7.5 months but that I was not abusive and neglectful and I really looked to him for support which he had willingly seemed to give me! All the while I had no idea that he was feeling the way he did. To make matters worse he also revealed snooping on my msn while I was brushing my teeth one night and interpreted an msn conversation that I had with my girlfriend all wrong, but failed to mention anything about it to me. So that night we had gone to be as usual all the while he was upset about something he didn't even read correctly. Plus if I had anything to hid I would not have left my msn on never mind the window that I was chatting on open!. To make an even longer story short I tried begging for him, sending him texts messages telling him that I really do love him and that I want to be with him, but him not believing that I do and sending me a huge email saying that he is jealous of the relationship that me and my cat has and if I has given him the same type of affection he would be happy and that he doesn't feel I really care about him. He also thinks that a relationship consists of certain things and that I was no providing those things but at the same time reminding me that he is not looking to be with anyone else and that he enjoyed having sex with me and that he still thinks about me... on and on.. so these emails went on for a while and just today I confronted him in person as last night in his email he said that he too thought about having sex but that it wouldn't be a good idea and how he keeps the gift that I bought for him on his shelf and how he keeps the cards that I got for him on his shelf also... so when I called him to confirm he ignored me the entire night and didn't even respond to my texts... I let it go and waited till this morning and I ended up confronting him at his house, as I knew in person is a better way to communicate that over the phone. He lied and said he went to bed at 7pm and then he lied about being in the shower when I called, so I was hurt and I asked why couldn't he have just been honest instead of leading me on and writing such nice things in every email. I finally left and I have decided to let it go, but I want to know if any men out there or anyone knows why he is playing games like this and if he truly cares about me?? Will he resurface or just let things go?
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