[christy9800]

My soon to be 9 year old has matured a LOT more younger than normal girls her age. I already have her in a training bra and for the past 4 years, she has also grown hair. (if you know what I mean). This is REALLY hard for me to discuss this but I'm lost for thoughts. She also wants to know how babies get in mommies bellies and I tell her from the daddy. Now she wants to know how is REALLY happens. I feel she's way to young to know about sexuality. She has said the word before, but I she doesn't know what it means. Is she too young, or is this the right age to start talking to her about sex? Is she old enough to understand? PLEASE HELP! :confused: :eek:

[tawnynkids]

If she is asking she is likely old enough to be asking others. Children are getting their information in all the wrong places these days so make sure your daughter isn't one of them. She is old enough to be told the basics, the very basics. That will probably satisfy her curiosity. I recommend a book called "Where Do Babies Come From?: For Ages 6 to 8 and Parents". You read it first and make sure it's right for you and her. A book can be a great way to help introduce the subject. But I guarantee if you don't someone else will. Our children get information from others (tv, friends) regardless but we need to make sure they have the information we want them to have as well. I have 6 children. 4 girls and 2 boys, ranging in age from 18 to 2 years old. They all knew pretty early what sex was and how it is supposed to fit within a healthy marriage. They all came to me about their various girlfriend/boyfriend questions and I made sure they got the sound advice they will need to carry them through their dating years. And they know they can come to me with any question or even problem they have. The most important thing you can do is to always let her know to never be afraid to come to you with any questions, free of judgments. As long as you establish a very open line of close communication you are more likely to always know what is going on with her and in her mind. I hope this helps.

[beebop]

You should explain it to her in technical terms. Try not to make it too much about sex, make it about ovaries and eggs and sperm.
You should also make sure she knows about safe sex. If you're going to teach her what sex is, it isn't too early to define healthy relationships and safe sex. She'll probably look at you funny and feel awkward, but really... It'd be worth it.

[SoonToBeMumOf5]

Yes, you should deffinatly tell her as she's going to need to know. Hitting puberty early means she's possibly going to sexually influanced feelings early as well. Explain this to her, you don't want her to freak out. I agree with beebop, make it too do with overies, eggs and sperm as she's 9, once you tell her what a penis is she's likely to run of saying eww. And when you get her to sit down with you don't start straight into all that stuff make her feel comfortable talking about that stuff first.

Good luck