[Just a chat]

Thanks for the advice

[Jiser]

It appears your relationship reached its natural conclusion. You both had/still probably have strong feelings for each other but are at different stages of your lives. Where she is still finding herself and enjoying partying you want to settle down and commit. Maybe it is time to concentrate on yourself and what you want from life and eventually when happy you will find the right person who wants the same as you.

This person may be your ex and there is no saying you will not meet again in the future, become friends or even lovers again. However both of you as said want different things and its best now to move on for the time being and work on yourselves as individuals rather than in a couple. In time you will both be able to gain a better perspective on life and what you want from it, maybe then when healed and grown you will contact her again.

This may help:

Read over the board and read past questions and advice!

Its time to accept the harsh truth and start the transition to single life. Its hard but whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? More wary in the future and aware what we are looking for in a relationship and a person.

Treat your relationship as a life experience, you might not be able to treasure the memories you had right now but one day you will. Do not regret but learn and move on, as someone much better is just around the next corner.

You must try follow these: (be strong)

1) Abide by no contact, ignorance is bliss so don't go near the 'grape vine'
2) Work on yourself entirely - hobbies, work, gym
3) Ever wanted to do something in your life? Nows the time
4) Spend more time with your friends and family and renew old social ties
5) Box every memory away and stay away from your fav songs for now - when you can look at it without feeling ill - Ur halfway there!
6) Time does heal :P It just takes a god dam while, but don't mope at home, go out, party, exercise - helps a hell of a lot

You don't need anyone to be happy.

The best revenge is to be happy yourself :]

[Just a chat]

The hard part seems to stay strong, one day I'm happy that we done the right thing, the next day I'm back to square one, wishing things could be different, but I know they never can be the same second time over. I suppose I just have to let time take it's course

[Jiser]

Let time take it course, yes! Keep yourself busy :P