[christy9800]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year in July. We both have baggage. We are both divorced people, we both have children and those other people you call your EXES! I divorced my husband a year ago (happily) and his wife left him and divorced him about 2 1/2 years ago. I used to work in the ER in a hosp, and she (his ex-wife) would always come in there (she's an EMT). Her and I started becoming friends about 2 years ago (I was still married). 3 months after my divorce was final, I started dating my neighbor that lives across the street from me, which was her ex-husband! After a couple of months, his ex-wife found out that he was starting a new relationship w/someone else. It wasn't to long until she realized who I was. (thankfully I had already left working at the hospital). She would come over to his apt w/his son and stay for hours KNOWING that was getting to me. After 4 months of us dating, she told him that she was going to take his cell and upgrade it. And yes, they have a family plan together. They had gotten it right before the divorce. Anyway, I started getting these pretty explicit text messages from his phone. Of course, I think it's him, so I start texting back. After a while, I had a funny feeling that was not him on the other end of those messages. I called him at work and that's when I found out that SHE was the one txting me pretending to be him! Needless to say, I was pissed! Between that and a few things she has said about me in the past, she has apologized to me personally for EVERYTHING! She explained to me that she was NOT that type of person and she was showing her side of jealously. (I'm the only serious girlfriend he's had since his divorce.) Since then, she has been acting like she wants to be friends w/me. She'll call and tell me about Mason (their son) or text me just to see how I'm doing. I have been friendly to her to, but I've been told that it's all a set up. In other words, she's just wanting to be my friend just to fire up her ex and to stay in the mix of everything. I definitely watch my P's and Q's when I talk to her and his name NEVER gets brought up out of my mouth. The only reason why I'm nice to this woman is to try to keep peace between all of us. I've never dated a divorcée before and don't know what to expect, especially when there's children involved. What should I do? Should I continue talking to her or keep my distance or what? Please let me know! I will do anything to keep my man! I don't think he's to crazy about the idea of us talking. At first, I thought it was because he was hiding something and he didn't want her telling me. But now, I'm starting to think that since she left him and divorced him, he wants his personal life kept personal. Please help! :eek: :confused:

[NowWhat]

I would talk to your boyfriend about this. Is he comfortable with the relationship? If not - then you just keep relationship polite. Actually - I would just do that either way. I would not trust her. I don't think you should count her as a friend right now. If this relationship(you and BF) goes farther and you get married - you two will be a part of each other's lives because of the son. And you want things o.k. for him.
I would ALWAYS watch what I say. And keep your boyfriend in the loop.