[jazzie42]

Hi All,
Thanks so much for the replies regarding my painful breakup!! However, as I was the one to end the relationship because I just couldn’t endure the lying and discovery of the cheating that was going on. With all that said, he is constantly on my mind no matter what I am doing. How do I move through the emotional bond with this guy even though there is no contact whatsoever on my part? He wants to know how I would just walk away with no closure for him.

[SAB123]

Screw that guy you tell him nothing he cheated on you and lied. Continue with the NC and take the time to heal yourself because you owe him nothing.

[SameOldSituation]

He made his bed...

Of course he's on your mind, but you don't owe him anything. You don't have to be uncivil and hateful, but you don't owe him "closure." I mean, he lied and cheated. That sounds like closure to me. And he knows that. He's just feeling guilty now and is realizing "whoops!" Too late.

When I need to move through an emotional bond, I do what everyone on this forum says to do. Drop communication and focus on myself. Improve yourself. Make yourself a better person, etc. Once you do things like that---and really do stick to that--you will feel much better.

[talaniman]

As the previous posters have said you owe him nothing, especially not closure, whatever that means, and as a matter of fact, nip him in the bud and stop taking his calls. Get a life that you enjoy with out him, and learn to find your own happiness.

[diya]

If u need to move on... DON'T think about the good times you've had... think of the times when he lied and cheated on you and how you disgraceful u felt about the whole thing... one who doesn't respect you for who you are and can't make you feel happy about certain issues, then he doesn't deserve you... infact u deserve someone better... Think about it and it will be easier to move on...