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donohoec · Apr 25, 2007, 11:15 AM

Me and my ex-girlfriend has been friends form a week now. But today I mad a mistake. This morning I wrote a note to her telling her to "leave me alone. And not to talk to me". I was in a bad mood. She's been telling me how much she loves me and how much she wants to date me but when we get to school it is a whole different story. During school she acts like I am not around. Should I just let her go and move on? Now she say that if I write her she won't read, that if I call her she will hang up, that if I talk to her she won't listen, and that if I come over to her house that she will be no where to be seen. What started it was her telling me how much her dad hates me, but I talked to her dad and she got mad. Well this morning a friend came up to me telling me that I need to leave her alone or he was going to kick my butt. The thing is that the is is 4x's me size and could easily hurt me. What should I do? Need help from all.

Rockabilly1955mama · Apr 25, 2007, 11:18 AM

Leave her alone. Don't look at her, call her, write her.. ANYTHING. Wait a couple of weeks until she calms down. Let her know you were in a bad mood and you didn't mean it. If I were you, I would move on. If she's getting other people to confront you, that's not right and she's not the type of girl you want to get caught up in because chances are she cannot handle things herself. Whatever you choose, the best of luck to you!

talaniman · Apr 25, 2007, 11:42 AM

Leave her alone and save your butt. End of story buddy.

diya · Apr 25, 2007, 01:13 PM

Talaniman, you are very honest with your replies and I like to read them, however I want to know "Is moving on..an answer to a lot of relationships which can be saved if worked on?" No offense meant really, however would like to know.

talaniman · Apr 25, 2007, 01:53 PM

No offense taken. Actually this is an excellent question, and I'll try to answer it.
Even after moving on, and going through the healing process, and you don't have the emotional chaos, couples can comeback together and work on the relationship, but to do that they both must be willing to do the work or at least learn how, and anything less than both rarely works. Unfortunately those that come here have already broken up and are stuck in that emotional chaos that prevents them from accepting reality and getting to a happy healthy place. Also we see a lot of one sided relationships where one partner is already moved on, and the other is left in shock and stuck. To answer your question moving on gets you to a healthier place, where you can make better decisions about what you want and how to get it. The bottom line is if both are not willing to work in a relationship then yes its time to move on.

diya · Apr 25, 2007, 02:53 PM

"Even after moving on, and going thru the healing process, and you don't have the emotional chaos, couples can comeback together and work on the relationship, but to do that they both must be willing to do the work or at least learn how, and anything less than both rarely works"

Agreed 100%.. that settles my query... thanks a lot Talaniman,for taking time out to reply.