[kidoodles]

Hi

I have been with my partner for almost two years. Our sex life was great for the first 6 months. Then I fell pregnant and he didn't feel comftable having sex with me whilst I wasn't pregnant. He had fears Of hurting the baby.etc So as much as that hurt I accepted it and thought things would get better when my daughter is born.

She is now 8 months old. We've had sex roughly 10 times since she's been born and I just feel so rejected. I am actually suffering from anorexia and have done since the birth of my child - Thr reason he doesn't want sex is beacause he thinks I'm too thin.

I just feel as if its excuses all the time. 1st I'm pregnant and too big and now I'm too small. Hes always saying he wants me to be lik ewe were when we first met. But all this stress doesn't help my disorder. Im only 21 and he's 26. Surely a young couple with a new born baby like us shouldn't be having all these problems

Any help or advice would be appreciated. We have talked about it but there seems to be no middle medium that suits the both of us.

Thanks

[Emland]

Some men freak out when their partner has a baby. It makes them feel insecure and many have a difficult time dealing with it. Coping with the new responsibility can be overwhelming.

Babies are stressful, then add your eating disorder and you have got a lot to deal with. Do you have a counselor or clergy that you can talk to about it? I don't believe your problems with your partner have anything to do with your personal appearance.

[Fr_Chuck]

You need counseling for your eating disorder, and both of you need marriage counseling, having trouble after a baby is more common than most talk about