[Arrigo22]

My fiancé's ex boyfriend and father of their kids insists he wants to meet me, but beats around the bush. He has two ample opportunities and has ducked and dodged both times.

When it comes to his weekends for having the their kids, she always has to pick them up and drop them off at his place. I've been talking to my fiancé on taking a stand and have him pick up and/or drop off their kids at least half the time, as to ease the burden and be fair. It upsets me that he takes advantage of the situation and she gives in to avoid dealing with the potential conflict.

My fiancé and her kids and I will soon be moving intogether to a new state. Once again my fiance's ex is insisting on meeting me. The ex's girlfriend tried to set up dinner at a restaurant for the four of us, but my fiance's ex canceled those plans. Now my fiancé is recommending I go to his house with her as she is dropping off the kids for the weekend to meet him.

Once is my fiancé bring the kids again but now I'm having go to him as well. I recommend to my finance the exact opposite, for once he could come get his kids and meet me at her place.

Don't know if I should just got along with it or end him taking advantage... any advice?

[Wondergirl]

He is okay with her taking their kids to live in another state? How will that work for his visitation?

[Arrigo22]

She has sole custody and according to court agreement he gets the kids for 5 weeks during the summer (he's been picking and holding his dates this summer hence the weekend drop off) and alternating holidays. He has 30 days to contest to move- 2 weeks left.

[talaniman]

I believe I would take a back seat, and support whatever way my fiancé wants to handle this situation with her co-parent. If she asks me to go with her to drop off their kids, I would go, and follow her lead. As much as I may not agree how they deal with each other, and their kids, my role in this is support, and not lead, even if you think the guy is a zip darn idiot.

I am sure you have talked to her enough to know that's what she wants from you. If you meet the guy, then you meet the guy, if not, then oh well, so what's the big deal either way?

Does he complain to you about this or something? Or is she just being nice until her big move with you? Why rock the boat? What does that get you?

[joypulv]

I agree with the above.

I certainly wouldn't get into a tug of war during the next 2 weeks. I'd be planning for the chance that you can't go anywhere.