[Mrkvak]

I met a girl a month ago. We corresponded and I recognized her personal character. I started like her. She had a problems but she was shame about it. We started with walks outside like a friends. The result was perfect, she started like me more and more. After time she had a doctor's examination... her mood was very low at this day. And because she trusted me she said me the problem (She lost some "friends" when she told them). She have something with ankle and she is wearing prosthesis. There is a chance that surgery operations will be necessary... permanent wheelchair is one of the worst result of the injury. (And she say me something about her other joints that they are looking like sixty years old... and bee like a sugar... I don't know that it mean... I little bit scared by this. I have not found a information about this. What is it. How dangerous is it... )

Situation is very stressful for me now. She wrote me sentences how she is glad that she met me, she love me and believe that I will be best friend and good boyfriend. (best friend is cool and I agree with it, but boyfriend I am not sure now).

I did not know I should answered. I remembered Two and Half man's episode where Charlie answered "Thank you". So I wrote that I am glad too and she makes me happy when we are outside together. (It's truth.) I do not want to lie her. Say that I really love her (I do) start a romance, relationship and after a month stop it.. . It is just for spoiled brats...

Thank you, I am lost in my ignorance...

[J_9]

You only met her a month ago. It's too early for love. Take your time get to know her, let her get to know you.

If she wants to talk about what is wrong with her, let her talk, listen. Just because she may have a disability, it doesn't mean that she is damaged goods. She could be a very wonderful person underneath that. Physical disabilities done define who we are. Heck! You don't even know what is wrong. Do you?

[talaniman]

I don't know how old you are, but I hope you are old enough, and mature enough to be honest with her in a good caring way. I don't know how long you have been interacting with her either, but if you give a person a lot of attention when they are at a low point, its easy they may get the idea of love, and will think you feel the same.

Honestly you should have spoken up when the boyfriend comment was first made, so be gentle when you speak up now! It's really simple, you want to know more before you give your heart away!

Talaniman Rule - Date them all! Short, fat, skinny or tall. 18-80, blind, cripple, or crazy!

Never lie because you don't have to, nor commit before you are ready! Have fun getting to know them and learning what they are about.

[Mrkvak]

You only met her a month ago. It's too early for love. Take your time get to know her, let her get to know you.

If she wants to talk about what is wrong with her, let her talk, listen. Just because she may have a disability, it doesn't mean that she is damaged goods. She could be a very wonderful person underneath that. Physical disabilities done define who we are. Heck! You don't even know what is wrong. Do you?

No, I do not know more about illnes. Try to ask her about this is good opiton and I did not consider it... I know that physical disability does not change mental character... If I will not start romance I want to stay as best friend. Because in the future without problems between us (in partnership) will bee stupid end this with words"...my fear...". I am not sure if I want to give up favorite activities (the underline part) Disablility change significantly a live of partners.

Thank you. I will try to ask her about illnes. It should help me then.

[joypulv]

Plan your question to her carefully, including how much you like her, and why.