[Lady H]

I'm planning on having my 2nd child. But me and my husband are not seeing each other everyday as he is working offshore. We get to meet up around twice a month.

When is the best time we should have intercourse in order to get pregnant? Is it on the 14 days after my 1st day of menstrual or a day or two before? My menstrual cycle is around 28-30 fix.

Ive been doing some reading about this too, but I would like to hear more opinions about it. Thank you..

[Fr_Chuck]

It is two or three days before ovulation, which may (but may not) go along with the dates of your period, You should use ovulation testing to determine and estimate those days.

Online charts for ovulation, are guesses and not exact, but better than no guess at all.

[CravenMorhead]

If you can't choose when you see your husband, then whenever you see your husband is a good time. It might be difficult if his visits aren't synced to your cycle. It might take a while to get pregnant considering that. As well normal perfectly healthy couples can take up to a year to conceive even when everything is going right.

Good luck.

[DoulaLC]

A starting place for likely ovulation is looking at 12-16 days before your next period is due. You can then see how dates measure up by using other means for determining ovulation. Ovulation tests will suggest starting to test about day 11 of your cycle (day one being the first day of a period). It can take a few months to see a pattern emerge, and it can help to watch for other changes, such as increased cervical mucus that is clear and more fluid. This often starts several days prior to ovulation to provide sperm the easiest journey. Since many women will ovulate outside the norm, you may find that you get better results using two test kits each cycle, although it can add up in cost, and start testing a few days sooner and go a few days longer after suspected time for ovulation.

Temping and charting is another means of getting an idea of when you are likely to ovulate. This too can take a few months to see a pattern, and while none of these methods will tell you that you definitely ovulated, only that your body was preparing to ovulate, they will help you narrow your timing down a bit. Generally, if you are having regular periods, you are also likely to be ovulating on a regular basis.

Fertility monitors are yet another way to assess likely ovulation. They are fairly pricey, but some women choose to try them, especially if they have found other methods difficult to use.

As was said, it can naturally take many months, and that is for couples who are able to have sex quite regularly, so try not to get too discouraged if it takes a bit of time.

Hopefully you will be fortunate and it will happen fairly quickly for you! Good luck!