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kjones7867 · May 13, 2016, 01:57 PM

So me and this guy has been talking for two weeks now I really like him. I don't really know how relationships work seeing how I really been in one. So first thing is that he is a really bad texter. Sometimes he will text back hours or he will stop texting me until the next day. It doesn't bother me that much. We both are in college and he do work, so I try not to trip about it too much. Sometimes he will be on Twitter and he hasn't text me yet. I know we are not in an exclusive relationship, so I'm not sure if I should be defensive about this. We only hung out once like a week ago and we never see each around campus. He's seem genuine and ask me about myself and stuff, but I had guys n the past on multiple occasions be genuine and turn out to douche bags. I don't want to judge him based on stupid guys, but I feel like I have a good feelings about him. We text almost everyday and majority of the time he text me first. The thing that made me have doubts was he asked me if I was a virgin and the next day he apologize about it. So as you can see, I'm screwed. And plus we live close to each other, so I would be easy to see him when school is over. Help me guys

Homegirl 50 · May 13, 2016, 02:30 PM

You are not in a relationship at all. This is someone you have been talking to for two weeks and went out with once.
I would be done with him the minute he asked about my sexuality. It's none of his business unless that is all he is after.
He is not the only guy on campus. Just because you like a guy, it does not mean he is right for you or even likes you.

tickle · May 13, 2016, 03:39 PM

You are all over the board. First you say he doesn't text you, then you say he does. He asked you if you were a virgin. Okay, big red flag my girl. You had better lay low and think about what you are doing here before you answer any of his questions.

It appears you are not ready for any kind of relationship; you are much too needy for one.

ma0641 · May 13, 2016, 08:05 PM

"I know we are not in an exclusive relationship". What? 2 weeks and you are not sure? That's like running into someone at McDonalds a couple of times. "So as you can see, I'm screwed???" Are there no other men anywhere you go? You ramble all over the place and your post is hard to follow. Right off the bat "he asked me if I was a virgin"-Can you say GOODBYE?

smoothy · May 13, 2016, 08:16 PM

This isn't a relationship at all. Not any way, shape or form. In fact it barely makes you friends at this point. He's looking for someone to get in the sack until he gets bored with them. I'm a guy...it is really pretty obvious to me.

talaniman · May 14, 2016, 05:53 AM

You are just text buddies until he actually makes time to date you, but as others have said asking about your virginity is merely a way of seeing if you are sexually active. I wouldn't be so eager or carried away by all this text attention, because he really hasn't shown much interest into spending time getting to know you so don't let your "LIKE" make you to hopeful about having any more that a TEXT keep in touch kind of thing, mostly to keep HIM on YOUR mind and it seems to work.

Be cautious with this one (Any guy to be honest)... eyes wide open!

catonsville · May 14, 2016, 06:16 AM

If you are looking for sack time he is your boy, nothing more should be expected.

Fr_Chuck · May 14, 2016, 06:55 AM

Two weeks ? Or have you known him a long time at school? Sorry it can't be both.

Relationship? Even if dating every day for two weeks, it is too early to even consider if it will be a lasting relationship, you are still in a discovery phase.

Virgin, on first time talking, sorry, he has a sexual interest, that is not just a topic asked unless you are perhaps in the middle east.

joypulv · May 14, 2016, 06:57 AM

Texting and its evil child, text-panic, are a world wide epidemic. It's insanity. It boggles my mind.
Every day someone (usually female) comes here in a text panic.
I have yet to see a text that holds anything meaningful. To me it's existentialist hell.

When you meet someone you like, talk in person. There are a million little gestures, looks, tones of voice that add depth to conversation, and you can actually say things like "Tell me all about when you were growing up" or "What are your hopes for your future?" and get answers that mean something.

Then when you are apart, you get to dream and think about each other, eager to see each other SOON! And you talk about what has happened, and it's just so much more.... real, meaningful, and you actually get to know each other.

talaniman · May 14, 2016, 07:27 AM

I have to agree with the others. Texting is meaningless except to set up a date or meeting. A lousy way to get to KNOW someone, as any text can be misread, or worse, trigger thoughts of fancy, and require NO EFFORT on the part of the sender.

I can see how easy it is to become dependent on texting to stay connected when you like someone.

Oliver2011 · May 16, 2016, 08:37 AM

I agree with everyone as well, especially Tickle when she said "You are all over the board." This almost reads like a middle school person wrote it (as in a middle school person's expectation of a relationship).

I will say this though, my spouse and I only text while we were dating. To this day I bet we have talked on the phone maybe three times. Neither of us are phone people.