[de88ie_9irl]

Hey :)
I think I was right in breaking up with my boyfriend. As we were planning to move in together I told him that I might be changing my career which would involve me going back to study, so therefore would not be able to afford the change yet. He told me he was not willing to wait another year or two until I was ready, because he wanted to move in now. I wanted him to say "I love you so much I'm willing to wait because I want to spend the rest of my life with you- if this is what you need to do to be happy then do it. I'll be there.. I don't want to lose you, you mean too much to me". But he didn't, so I ended it because I felt there wasn't enough love there.
I miss him heaps now.. and he's hinted that he's thinking about me and finding it really tough.. if I asked him if his mind had changed, if he misses me, would he take me back and wait a little while, do you think he would? Or do men never change? Is it worth breaking open semi-healed wounds? AND.. is he worth it?!

[RickB]

I think that he's an.. seems to me he doesn't totally respect you or your feelings.

[Krs]

You both need to sit down and communicate before either of you make any rational decisions.
COMPROMISE... and COMMUNICATION are the keys.

Never assume anything, so I would make sure you discuss what you BOTH want to achieve in life.

[talaniman]

Only you can know if its worth it or not. You have expressed yourself and he expressed himself and then it seems as the communication broke down from there. Instead of continuing to the next step you broke up based on assumptions and expectations you had regarding what he should have done or said. Not a good sign as you now are having second thoughts. I suggest you get back to talking about this issue and work together to find a solution that works for you both. Unless you can compromise, how can you expect to support each other? Breaking up is a lot easier than talking and listening, so you decide is it worth talking about.