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debraincali · Sep 4, 2015, 01:14 AM

I have full custody. Our parenting plan is in Washington and I live in California. He owes over $15,000 in back support. He wants nothing to do with my daughter. He wants to sign over his rights. He wrote me saying he is trying to find someone else to adopt his portion of custody. (weird) He has had no contact at all with her in over a year. Thank God. He only texts me to harass me and call me names. My daughter says when she was with him during visitations. He would hit her and lock her in a room in there basement. CPS did nothing. She also claims sexual abuse and she is only 4. She is terrify of him and we cant mention the word Daddy without her screaming and crying NO Daddy! I have to get his permission to take her to see a child Psychologist and he won't allow it. So she is getting worse all the time and lashing out with anger. I already spent $35,000 in attorney fees and have nothing left to fight so he dropped me. What can I do?

joypulv · Sep 4, 2015, 02:13 AM

He can't abdicate his responsibility as father.

I am very sorry that two parents can't work together for the sake of THEIR child.
Whenever someone says 'my daughter' or 'my son,' I cringe.

ScottGem · Sep 4, 2015, 04:56 AM

You go back to court and ask that visitation be ended or at least be supervised. Show the court what he wrote about finding someone to adopt. Get copies of the CPS investigations. Ask the court to appoint a therapist to talk to your daughter to confirm the sexual abuse.

If you can prove he is a danger to the child, you might get his rights terminated, but that is still unlikely. He will not get a court to agree to an adoption unless it is to someone you marry. But if you can prove what you have told us you should be able to get his visitations terminated.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 4, 2015, 07:41 PM

NO he can not sign over or give up his rights or duty as father. If you later remarry, he can sign over his rights to your new husband and allow the husband to adopt. (or other marriage partner)

IF CPS did not find any proof to the abuse, it may be hard to prove he is a danger to the child.

Take her to the doctor, first I do not believe you need his permission, and even if you are suppose to, to be honest, who cares what he thinks if she really needs medical attention.

AK lawyer · Sep 8, 2015, 12:24 PM

... I have to get his permission to take her to see a child Psychologist and he won't allow it. ...

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

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Take her to the doctor, first I do not believe you need his permission, and even if you are suppose (sic) to, to be honest, who cares what he thinks if she really needs medical attention.

I agree. Imagine the following scenario: OP takes child to the professional who reports suspected abuse. As a consequence, there is a court hearing. The father is seriously going to argue that OP violated the terms of the custody decree? I imagine the courtroom will be filled with laughter.