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kylee1998 · Jul 8, 2015, 11:20 AM

So I told my mom that my boyfriend and I had sex and she had to tell my dad obviously but a few days later my dad told me that he is going to set up the fridge in the garage and that fridge is mine and that is I don't get a job my the end of this month I don't have a phone. Which means I cant talk to my boyfriend he has been the reason I'm still living today to be honest. They also said that if I'm pregnant then I'm out of the house but I don't think I'm pregnant but I kind wish I am. Everything is different now I have to pay for everything I need food phone cloths everything. I don't get along with my parents at all anyway but this is worse. I know that my boyfriends parents will let me live with them but I just want to know what I can do to get my parents to get me out.

AK lawyer · Jul 8, 2015, 12:09 PM

... but I just want to know what I can do to get my parents to get me out.

Your question doesn't really make sense. Your parents have the duty to take care of you until you come of age (18 in most places). So, while you could just leave, your parents theoretically can make you stay. But if you want to leave, and they aren't stopping you, what's the problem?

It would, of course, be better all around if you, your parents, your boyfriend, and his parents could get together, work out your differences, and come up with a solution in a loving manner.

Oliver2011 · Jul 8, 2015, 12:18 PM

Welcome to the adult world. You want to play as an adult so your parents are going to treat you as an adult. That means paying for your stuff.

At 16 you aren’t starting towards adulthood on a very good foot, and that can make a huge impact the rest of your life. When things are going well, and they aren’t for you, then you need to stop, evaluate, and then change directions. Your parents aren’t now and never will be the enemy.

joypulv · Jul 8, 2015, 01:31 PM

They PAY your phone bill, and you show your appreciation by having sex at 16?
Does that sound all wrong to you? It does to me. You want it both ways.

All they have to do is put a roof over your head and feed you basic meals.
Now you can pay for all the stuff you've been taking for granted.

Sit down after dinner and say you are sorry and have learned a few things. You will start looking for summer jobs tomorrow, and you will stop having sex!

As for not being able to live without the phone to talk to him, that's baby drama. Time to show some adult behavior.
When you do talk to him, ask him what he would do if you get pregnant. That will cool him off real fast. Unless he's a double jerk, and will just dump you like so many teen boys do. (He might not admit it, but most do.)

Fr_Chuck · Jul 8, 2015, 05:32 PM

Your post shows you are a very immature child and do not understand life. OF course you and your boyfriend are not ready to have a child. And, if you were my child, I would have taken your phone away so you could not talk to boyfriend and ground you, so you could not see him.

You do not have a job, can not pay bills, and has boyfriend told his parents he had sex? Don't expect his parents to be so understanding. Or let him tell them, you may be pregnant, and see what they are saying.

AK lawyer · Jul 9, 2015, 06:35 AM

Originally Posted by joypulv

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Sit down after dinner and say you ... will stop having sex!
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When you do talk to [the BF] ask him what he would do if you get pregnant. That will cool him off real fast. Unless he's a double jerk, and will just dump you like so many teen boys do. (He might not admit it, but most do.)

I assume joypulv means that most boys in that situation will dump pregnant girlfriends.

So yes, OP should tell her parents that she will stop having sex. And she should keep that promise. And, if she doesn't keep that promise, at the very least, use birth control.

J_9 · Jul 9, 2015, 07:06 AM

Guess what. You are 16. Your parents cannot legally kick you out.

It's time you stop acting like an entitled princess and accept the consequences for your actions.

ScottGem · Jul 9, 2015, 10:22 AM

Depending on where you live, your boyfriend may have broken the law by having sex with you. So he is lucky your dad didn't go to the police.

I'm with the others, you sound like you are spoiled and don't have a clue how good you really have it. You haven't given any consideration to how much your parents feel betrayed and upset because you have broken their trust in you. I think your father actually had a good idea in putting a fridge just for you in the garage and requiring you to pay at least part of your own way.

AK lawyer · Jul 9, 2015, 10:30 AM

I actually didn't understand the part about the 'fridge in the garage. Is she locked out of the house, so she can't use the one inside? And, if so, is her father just putting low-cost food in it, or what?

ScottGem · Jul 9, 2015, 10:36 AM

The OP will need to clarify that. I took it to mean that she was not being allowed to take food from the family fridge (or pantry) and that she had to keep the garage fridge stocked on her own. But she was still being provided with a bed and roof over her head.

cdad · Jul 9, 2015, 12:43 PM

Your complaining now just wait if you do get pregnant and you have to take care of another life. Yes a baby will be totally dependent on you. You have no skills so your life will remain as it is for the rest of your life.

You need to make better choices. Also stop watching tv shows like awkward !!!

smoothy · Jul 9, 2015, 02:28 PM

Cripes... you aren't "ENTITLED" to have a cell phone at all. Even as an adult. If you can't pay for your own you simply don't have one until you can.

And also... depending on where you live. Your parents might have to support you until you are 18, but they can send you packing as soon as you are. Without a dime or any assistance at all. Food, money, housing... advice or emotional support either. That is only Two years away and it is very, very little time. Time you start growing up before it gets here.

And if you do manage to get knocked up... they are under no obligation to pay for or support YOUR child. It would be a miracle if the father of it would stick around too. Statistically and historically few will at your age.

Ever hear the quote..." don't cut off your nose to spite your face"?

You are creating the mess you find yourself in...and making it worse with your attitude. And if your boyfriend was MY son....I'll be damned if I would be paying for you to live under MY roof, eating my food three times a day and everything off MY dime. And it would be MY roof, and not his or yours despite what you might think.

If that sounds harsh....its meant to be...you have a lot of maturing to do in two very, very short years or you will be in for one hell of a shock.

NOBODY is going to be more sympathetic to you than your own parents are. Life isn't fair, and life isn't easy....and nobody has to support you or listen to you whine as an adult.